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You Are So Sensitive! No I’m Not!

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TN146_margit
You are SO SENSITIVE!

TN146_stacy
It’s kind of a slimy word, all those sssses. I hate that insult. Being sensitive is awesome. Especially, um, you know, in the erogenous way.

TN146_margit
Were you ever called “too sensitive?”

TN146_stacy
I AM ALWAYS CALLED TOO SENSITIVE! Sorry, was I shouting?

TN146_margit
Ouch, you hurt my sensitive ears.

TN146_stacy
But here’s the thing: I have sensitive senses. i.e. I hear more than most people, I have a great sniffer (I can always tell what perfume people are wearing), and my emo sensor is set to ultra-high. My eyes, however, they age.

TN146_margit
I too have a very strong sense of smell. There are pros and cons to that. (Peee-yoooo)  But you can’t be creative without being sensitive.

TN146_stacy
Funny thing: being “sensitive” has a negative implication. Yet, expressing “sensitivity” is a plus. But seriously, I’mma say it again: The word sensitive always makes me think about sex.

TN146_margit
I see you, I feel you.

TN146_stacy
See! “I feel you” = sex. You get to have sex. You’re married. I’m just a sensitive ship alone on the sea.

TN146_margit
Funny. The word “sensitive” has a much more negative connotation for me, but lets stay on the sex train…..

TN146_stacy
Oh, wait, this isn’t about me….

TN146_margit
Um, yes it is. It’s about US!

TN146_stacy
WE ARE GOING TO HAVE SEX?

TN146_margit
I knew you were going there.

TN146_stacy
Because I’m sensitive …. but not sensible. I didn’t have coffee this morning, I swear.

TN146_stacy
But seriously, I am glad I’m sensitive. I’m glad I can feel and react to all that’s happening around me. I’m glad I have a gentle heart (if not a gentle sense of humor).

TN146_margit
I was often called too sensitive by friends and family. Meaning my feelings got hurt, I was too worried, or too something. It stung. Like, I’m just bein’ myself man.

TN146_stacy
Interesting that people would call you that, as a prompt to be LESS so. My son is crazy sensitive (like ADHD/sensory issues sensitive, so in both the physical and emotional way)….

TN146_margit
A friend [recently] told me she thinks her 10-year-old daughter is “too sensitive.” And I was all “Whoa, careful. You don’t want her to hide her creative light.” The mom said, “I just want to protect her.” which I suppose I understand…

TN146_stacy
I just try to make my son aware of his sensitivity and to guide him to when he might want to corral his feelings for his own comfort. The point is, teach your children not to be afraid of their emotions. Teach your children to name their emotions.

TN146_margit
Right.

TN146_stacy
Teach your children to identify which emotions don’t serve them. Like anger. I always say “Anger is normal, but we have to try to control it, to not give into it.” I always say that after SCREAMING MY HEAD OFF AT HIM.

TN146_margit
Sensitivity can absolutely protect you, too, by being hyper-aware of your surroundings. But that can quickly shift into paranoia, fear, anxiety. Like, despite all the flying I do I’m always anxious about it. And since being in a minor fender bender accident, now we can add driving/ being in a car/ taxi to that mix. I’m constantly telling taxis to slow the hell down, which isn’t very New York of me.

TN146_stacy
Ohhh, that kind of anxiety is because you think if you controlled the world you would be safe. Life beat that bullshit opinion out of me really young. I can’t control jack shit, except for suppressing my negative feelings. And in that I SCORE A THOUSAND MILLION. And so I pay a therapist.

TN146_margit
Did you read Kat Kinsman’s amazing piece on CNN about her struggles with anxiety?

TN146_stacy
Nope, but will immediately after this session, ’cause I need more ideas to help my son carry his sensitivity. I don’t have anxiety at all. I can basically put my hand on a hot stove, smell my flesh burning, and go, “Mmm, what’s for dinner?”

I find it very strange, I’m extremely sensitive to other people’s anxiety, pain, emotions, but I trained myself to move away from my own. Because I don’t like THE VULNERABILITY.

TN146_margit
Janet Jackson, you need some CONTROL. Sensitivity should result in a beautiful, multi-dimensional state of heightened awareness. Trippy.

TN146_stacy
My strongest sense is probably my sixth sense… the sense of things happening around me.

TN146_margit
That’s the bonus, superhero sense.

TN146_stacy
So lady, I need to be sensitive to the passing time… Did you solve my sex problem?

TN146_margit
Well, we are not having sex.

TN146_stacy
Oh. Hm. Well then. You aren’t being very sensitive to my feelings then, are you?

TN146_stacy
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