Year: 2019

TueNight 10: Tara Phillips

Age: 47 Quick Bio: Tara is an educator turned aspiring writer who is currently seeking representation for her first book, WEAK, a memoir. She also writes a blog, “My Year on “Mom”bbatical,” a collection of her reflections and experiences while living in Paris and taking a year-long break from parenting her 14-year old son. Beyond the Bio: “Spending this year free of the daily demands of parenting, I realized that I had almost forgotten what life was like before my son came along. I am slowly remembering who I am and what truly sets my soul on fire. I have spent the past 25 years managing and leading in my career, but now, I want to create and connect with my artist self again. As I get older, I am enjoying watching my son get older. Engaging with him at a distance, I’m able to see him as a person. Our interactions feel like a choice we are making together and I find that I really like him as a human being. That feels really good …

TueNight 10: Dara Kass

Quick Bio: Dara is a doctor, writer and gender equity advocate who just launched TIME’S UP Healthcare with several other amazing women in medicine. She is also the founder and CEO of FemInEM, an organization for women in emergency medicine. Beyond the Bio: “My life is so full, I feel like I just finished Thanksgiving dinner almost every night. I have been fortunate enough to see the effects of meaningful change in my field, in a flexible and financially viable way. That’s awesome, but sometimes overwhelming. At 41, I am exactly where I want to be in my career, have an awesome family and live in a great neighborhood. And because of what I have seen as an ER doctor and mom, I don’t take one day of this for granted.” 1. On the nightstand: Becoming by Michelle Obama, Indigo and Haze Body Lotionand my cell phone charger. In the drawers is a the collection of crap I try to ignore. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Believing that we are moving forward  Even when we are actively moving backwards. I believe that most people are inherently …

TueNight 10: Tonja Adair

Age: 48 Quick Bio: An architect and urban designer, Tonja co-founded her architectural firmSplice Design with business partner Dawn Bennett almost 10 years ago. Now they have offices in both Atlanta and NYC. Architizer named her one of 20 inspiring minority architects, designers and advocates for a more diverse profession. Tonja says she believes “architecture has the ability to form meaning and provide relevance with attention to our viewpoints and context, the aesthetics of material and form, and the role sustainability can play in our futures.” Beyond the Bio: “I am fortunate to design and consult for clients who want to change how they live or create dynamic places for their clients and customers to enjoy.  We learn daily from our experiences, and with each lesson I remind myself to do what can be done, allow for imperfections, invite playfulness, breathe and be who I am.” 1. On the nightstand: Usually a stack of books ranging from fantasy sci-fi, to inspiration for work and life, and of course pure fiction (although now that I’ve discovered Amazon Prime, the list gets longer) …

TueNight 10: Kelly Notaras

Age: 43 Basic bio: Author of The Book You Were Born to Write (Hay House, 2018). Founder of kn literary arts, a virtual editorial studio helping authors write, edit and publish their books. Beyond the Bio: “I did something kinda crazy last year—after spending my entire adult life in “blue bubbles” like NYC, Boulder and San Francisco, I bought a house in a tiny conservative town full of ranchers and coal miners. I did it for really good reasons: to help co-parent my late partner’s 10-year-old twin boys, and because I could afford to buy here. I renovated the house and painted everything white, including the wood floors. The day the house was finished, I started dating my contractor. The result has been a rich exploration of the very real divide our entire country sits on right now. Somehow we’re making it work but I have shed a lot of tears over how differently two loving and thoughtful people can see the world.”    1. On the nightstand: The best lip balm on the planet, Annemarie Borlind’s For Lips(you’re welcome). Nobody …

TueNight 10: Shira White

Age: 58 chronologically, various in every other metric Quick Bio: Founder of BeautifulNow, a digital media (and soon social commerce) startup that focuses on the most beautiful things happening in the world right now, including the Arts/Design, Impact, Nature/Science/Tech, Food, Travel and Wellness. Beyond the bio: Right now, I am rebuilding major parts of my life: Rebuilding home after catastrophic flood. Rebuilding business with new monetization strategies and goals. Rebuilding community now that I am based in NYC vs mostly in London and constant global traveling. Rebuilding my love life after recently ending a 16-year life partnership. Rebuilding my body after some illness (and all of the above mentioned stresses took their toll). Rebuilding my philanthropic efforts, given all of the above changes. While all of this rebuilding is challenging, to say the least, it comes with so many opportunities for growth, expansion, and new possibility — already I am experiencing some rewards. 1. On the nightstand: My new bullet journal (it actually works!). Barbara Kingsolver’s latest, Unsheltered. Well-read over and over, Diane Ackerman’s I Praise My Destroyer and MFK …

How to Date Your Crazy

I should have known we wouldn’t work out when I messaged him one of my favorite quotes from Alain de Botton. It’s from the On Being podcast “The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships.” In it de Botton says the question we should really be asking on first dates is: “How are you crazy? I’m crazy like this?” “I don’t get it,” he replied via WhatsApp. “How do you ask about crazy?” Of course he didn’t listen to the podcast to find out. I let it pass. He was sweet. He was cute. He was smart. He had his career together. I took this to mean he had his emotional life together too — all of it nicely bundled in a cultivated gift wrap and tied up with the sexy bow of an Australian accent.  We matched on Tinder two days before he moved from New York to Colorado, and when we couldn’t work out a meeting before he left, I figured he’d disappear. But he didn’t. A month after we connected, he flew …

TueNight 10: Candice Cook Simmons

Age: 40 Quick Bio: Candice is the Managing Partner of The Cook Law Group PLLC. She provides legal, business and strategic counsel to clients in the business, technology, and entertainment industries.  Beyond the bio: We asked Candice how has life changed for her as she’s gotten older. “I have a defined perspective. I have lived in six states. I have worked as an attorney for almost sixteen years. I am a wife and a mother and a daughter to aging parents who live in a different state and all of those things create layers to life. I have enough experience and perspective to value every aspect of my blessings—even the annoying things like the temporary discomfort of a sick child or a few sleepless nights. I am incredibly grateful for the life that I have and I’ve learned to not allow the insecurities of others to infiltrate that joy.” 1. On my nightstand: a Bible (that I have read from cover to cover—it was a resolution a few years back and I am so glad that I …

TueNight 10: Jennifer Garam

Quick Bio: Jennifer Garam is a Brooklyn-based writer and editor. Some of her favorite pieces  include a personal essay/reported article about how to grow out gray hair, a satire piece about if people had honest first date conversations, and a blog post about how to keep writing when no one gives a shit. Beyond the bio: “At the beginning of this past October, one month after my 43rd birthday, I was diagnosed with Stage 3 ovarian cancer. This came as a complete shock. I was in what I thought was perfect health, and had basically just had stomach pains and bloating for a week. Also, I thought that there was no cancer in my family and just didn’t think I was at risk for ever getting it. After I was diagnosed I dug a little deeper and discovered that there was a history of cancer in my family. Additionally, I got a genetic test and the results showed that I’m BRCA1 positive. This experience has obviously turned my life upside down and prompted me to reevaluate my priorities and …

TueNight 10: Marjorie Ingall

Age: 52 Quick Bio: Columnist for Tablet Magazine; author of Mamaleh Knows Best (she will come speak to your synagogue or JCC!); frequent contributor to the New York Times Book Review; and co-creator of SorryWatch, the web site devoted to all of your apology analysis needs. Beyond the Bio: “I have responded to going gray by adding MORE GRAY. More precisely, white — I added a fake white streak in the front of my hair. I was going for Susan Sontag, but have heard Rogue from X-Men and Alexandra the villain on Josie and the Pussycats, which are fine too. My aunt has a gorgeous cloud of white curls, and that is my #hairgoals, but my hair colorist says it is too soon.” 1. On the nightstand: Fenty Stunna lip paint in Uncuffed, a birthday present to myself. Sorry About That: The Language of Public Apology by Edwin L. Battistella. Current issue of The New Yorker. Spiral notebook made out of a vintage light pink, orange, and hot pink children’s book (anthology published in 1960 by Doubleday, just looked). Hedy Lamarr: An Incredible Life by William Roy & Sylvain Dorange. …

I Wish I Could Forget My Memory Lapses

My friends and I have started to lose our memories. Not in a drastic, “Where do I live again?” type of way. Or even in a milder, “Ohhh, my bra goes on the inside of my shirt” type of way. We’ve just started to have a few memory  — lapses. Like when I was telling my friend Jane a story about an old job of mine, and it was making her laugh until I said, “So I asked my boss John… shit, what was his last name again?” and then we had to suffer through a two-minute lull while I looked up at the ceiling and she looked down at her fingernails before I finally huffed, “GAWD, never mind.” Jane didn’t care about this interruption, but I did because trying to remember that guy’s name totally wrecked the flow of my anecdote. And it’d been a good anecdote up until that point. Maybe one of my best. But what I’ve come to realize is that these pauses that happen when women of a certain age try to recall …

TueNight 10: Bridgett Davis

Quick Bio: Bridgett M. Davis is the author of two novels, and a new memoir, The World According To Fannie Davis: My Mother’s Life In The Detroit Numbers, which is about how her mother ran an illegal lottery business from their home, giving her family a middle-class life. She’s a professor at Baruch College, CUNY, where she teaches creative writing courses and directs a writer-in-residence program. In the late 90’s, she wrote & directed a feature film, Naked Acts. Beyond the Bio: “I’m in full pre-book tour mode right now — thinking a lot about packing! Excited to connect with readers on the road. Life in my 40s was certainly full and amazing — rearing young children will do that for you. But life now, in my 50s, feels like coming into my own. I’ve hit a sweet spot. I finally feel confident about myself as a writer, and that’s freed me to allow my creativity to flourish in other ways. In fact, most people don’t know this about me, but I create collage art. My writing is …

TueNight 10: Sue Kramer

Quick Bio: Sue Kramer is an accomplished writer, director, producer and founder of connecting dots guru, a bespoke branding agency seen through a film director’s eyes. Her film Gray Matters (starring Heather Graham, Bridget Moynahan, Tom Cavanagh, Molly Shannon, Alan Cumming, and Sissy Spacek) is newly streamable on Amazon Prime. Beyond the Bio: “Post 40 is the best time of my life. Post labor pain. Post divorce. Post insecure about most. It’s the dawning of the age of empowerment. I love being over 40 because I finally own myself and own my body! This is it. I’m much more confident about who I am in this world, where I fit in and what I have to offer. I’m also less shy to ask for things, both in business, emotionally and sexually.  Post 40 is not mid life crisis time, it’s actually time to move out of the carpool lane and put the pedal to the metal in the fast lane.” 1. On the nightstand: The Cost of Living by Deborah Levy, How to be Happy by Lama Zopa Rinpoche and G’morning G’night by Lin-Manuel Miranda, and Vanity Fair. …

TueNight 10: Wendi Aarons

Quick bio: Humor writer, mother, curmudgeon, Democrat in Texas. Also the social media director for The Conferences for Women, and working on few projects including a book about being old and mean. Beyond the Bio: “The last fun thing I did was drink a few glasses of wine and apply to clinical studies at my dermatologist’s office. Fingers crossed that I’m wrinkled enough to get in! Otherwise, I’m trying hard to keep my sense of humor in our current political climate. I find myself nostalgic for the days when my biggest worry was if I’d be able to get Wham!’s new cassette before they were sold out. But, I keep my sanity via a lot of reading, watching movies that don’t star Reese Witherspoon, and listening to gospel music, which is kind of weird for an agnostic, but what can I say, I enjoy music that inspires you to enthusiastically clap.” 1. On the nightstand: Right now, Circe. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Watching The Real Housewives. I CAN’T QUIT YOU, RAMONA SINGER. 3. Jam of the minute: “Can You Feel It” …