All posts tagged: Birthday

Happy Birthday to Us! Get Tix to Our Live Event, 10/23

We can hardly believe it’s been five years. But as any TueNighter knows… Age is something to CELEBRATE. For our birthday edition, we’re bringing back excerpts of some of our TueNight faves — from Dodai Stewart bonding with bodywork professionals, to Susan Linney’s brave “Bottles Down” chronicles, to Tamar Anitai’s “Silly Things People Say When I Tell Them I Don’t Want Kids.” We’ll also have Deb Copaken and Michele Carlo with new stories and Cindy Gallop on why we need to shout our age from the rooftops. Hell yeah.  We’ll walk down memory lane with old friends and introduce some new ones. Plus, CAKE. TICKET PROCEEDS WILL SUPPORT VOTE RUN LEAD Buy tickets here!

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It Turns Out Black Does Crack, It Just Starts On The Inside

The author and her tattoo. (Photo courtesy Carolyn Edgar)   Not our faces, if we cleanse and moisturize and exfoliate consistently. Black women’s skin tends not to wrinkle. Our faces can look easily 10 to 20 years younger than our driver’s licenses say we are — if we maintain our health. But that’s the biggest if. Our health is where we black women tend to crack. Our black cracks from the inside out. It cracks under the weight of taking care of everybody but ourselves. It cracks under the pressure of smoothing out our rough edges and filing down our sharp tongues, lest we be tarred and feathered as angry black women for speaking our minds. And it cracks under our need to present our lives to the world as perfect, to counteract all of the negative stereotypes of black women and black families. We crack under the black-love-is-always-a-beautiful-thing pretensions of perfect marriages, children on the fast track to the Ivy League and well-behaved pets with glossy coats and camera-ready smiles. In February of this …

How Flying on a Trapeze Helped Me Defy My Age

I twist and turn my way up four sets of metal stairs. Breathless, I finally reach the roof. The sun hits my eyes, obscuring the blue sky momentarily. When my eyes adjust I see a man swinging back and forth from a narrow bar, the skyline of New York in the background. Muscular legs wrap around the bar, his arms and shoulder-length blonde hair hanging free. Finally I spy the sign: Trapeze School New York. I stand next to my boyfriend. He is 29. I am turning 45. Today. When I told him I wanted to go on the trapeze for my birthday, I thought he’d pick me up afterward and take me to dinner. Instead, he wanted to come. Reluctantly, I let him. We’d already talked children (I’m too old, neither of us are interested) and managed late-night concerts (I went home at midnight, he at dawn). And yet, I was still afraid he didn’t realize what my age really meant. That I was at risk for osteoporosis and a host of older-age ailments. That …

The Birthday Incident: Turning 40 in a Parking Garage

My friend, Andrew, an artist in Los Angeles, was grouchy on the night he turned 40. He did not like the aging process. To cheer him up, I made reservations for a small birthday dinner at his favorite restaurant and invited three of his closest friends. Andrew, being a control freak, insisted that we all meet outside his apartment complex at precisely 7 p.m. and then he would drive us to the restaurant. He was proud of his driving mojo and only trusted himself to get us to the restaurant in time. Getting together for dinner in Los Angeles can require as much precision as a military operation. Friends live far apart, and traffic is always bad. Sandra drove from Pasadena, picking up Hiroshi downtown, while I drove from Redondo Beach, picking up Brian in West Hollywood. We all converged on Andrew’s block in Silverlake, parking our cars near his apartment complex. Part One of the mission was accomplished. The metal security gate to Andrew’s garage creaked open and Andrew appeared, driving his 1996 Honda …

Hey It’s Our First Birthday Party! PHOTOS

Last Tuesday (of course) we noshed, drank and reveled to celebrate one year of TueNight. And without further ado, here are a few photos…. The event was held at the beautiful Park Avenue South WeWork in New York City, last Tuesday, October 7. Adrianna hand screen-printed some goodie bag totes for the occasion (sleeves rolled, that one.)   Nearly 100 women (and a few dudes) attended, including TueNight contributors Kathleen Warner, Cherisse Gardner and actor Chantal Jean-Pierre.   The founders of BinderCon — Leigh Stein (l) and Lux Alptraum. We learned Lux was a roller derby goddess; we think she’d like this story.   Erin Vilardi (center) from Run Vote Lead might just be asking a woman to run on the spot!   Tattly made us adorable temporary tattoos for the occasion that say “Tales to Tell” (cause we have ’em.)   Adrianna (l) joins editors (and TueNight contributor) Lauren Young and Cassandra Garrison of Reuters.   Chantal Jean-Pierre ended the evening’s readings with Cherisse Gardner’s piece, The Day I Cut My Hair, I Lost More Than Locks. Nary a …

Margit’s Note: Thank You

Kat, Adrianna, Margit and Susan (Photo: Andy Kropa/ TueNight) Hello to part two of our birthday celebration! TueNight officially turned one this year and last Tuesday we celebrated with readings, nosh and cocktails in NYC, along with nearly 100 women. (And we’ve got the photos to prove it.) Hearing our stories read aloud was powerful and, for me, quite emotional. We enlisted real actors to read and bring our stories to life. There were few eye-dabbers when actress Chantal Jean-Pierre read Cherisse Gardner’s “The Day I Cut My Hair, I Lost More Than Locks.” This week we’re sharing a few of those stories in our second Best Of series. What started as a concept early last year, to tell the stories of women hitting that midlife pivot, was realized with the help of founding team Kat Borosky, Susan Linney, Adrianna Dufay and 50-plus amazing writers. Independently created by all of us with other jobs on the side, we’ve been bootstrapping it all the way. I couldn’t be prouder of the work our tiny team has accomplished. …

Buy Our Best-Of Book!

Here at TueNight, we believe age is something to celebrate. So in honor of our first year, we’ve created a “Best of” paperback book on Blurb.com. It’s filled with 13 of our favorite pieces, along with brand new illustrations that have never before been published.  It’s our way of saying thank you to our fans and collaborators, and to harness the spirit of Year One in a package that we can hold. There’s nothing like print, after all. Buying the book is also a great way to support the site. It costs just $10 and will help us continue to share our stories with you — in all kinds of new and exciting ways! A little sneak peak:

The TueDo List: Make Cake, Party, Imagine

It’s been an exhilarating week of celebrating TueNight’s first birthday. We got to take our festivities offline for the party we threw at We Work Park South in New York City. It was so much fun and filled with so many wonderful women. We see no reason to stop celebrating, especially since the weekend is here. So go ahead, be the girls with the most cake. We plan to. Eat (and Make) Cake I’ve always said I’m a decent cook and not a baker, so the Piping Perfection cake decorating class at L’Academie de Cuisine here in the D.C .suburbs would be good for me to try. My sister got me a gift certificate for one of their classes, which is a fantastic gift for the wannabe baker in your own life. If you live elsewhere, you can try the Institute of Culinary Education in NYC, the San Francisco Cooking School, the Chopping Block in Chicago or the Seasoned Farmhouse in Clintonville, Ohio. (Their Dia de los Muertos event sounds amazing.) Party On The party …

The TueNight Birthday Collection on GREAT.LY

(Graphic: Kat Borosky/TueNight) As you may already know, TueNight has turned one! We’re celebrating in full force, and giving back to our readers with this Birthday Collection on GREAT.LY. We’ve filled it with things we love that also reflect our personality as we grow. Our collection is a celebration of awesome at any age — some of our favorite pieces from older collections and brand new picks. Shop this special section from today until October 14th and receive free shipping on any order! Here are just a few of the b-day goodies on offer: Dear New York, I Love You Recycled Cotton Tote Bag, $26 Hot Pink Brush Stroke Coasters, set of 4, $30  Jolie Leather Handbag, $155 Hashtag Necklace, $75

The Best Happy, Healthy-ish Birthday Cake Ever

(Graphic: Kat Borosky/TueNight) Happy Birthday, TueNight! You’ve made it through year one, which in web years is a mighty accomplishment. Your birthday celebration would be incomplete without cake. To get this party started, I’m sharing a recipe from the KOD vault that has figured into sundry momentous occasions over the years. “The Bundt is an emblem of kinder, gentler times, when school bake sales were legal and somebody’s mother would cut one into hunks and call it “coffee cake.” Break out that Bundt pan that’s been collecting dust; you’re going to need it (and if you live in a Bundt-free zone, you can pick up one secondhand at your neighborhood thrift shop for just a few bucks). For newbies, a Bundt pan is deep and round with lots of ridges but best defined by its middle chimney which leaves a hole in the center of a cake. The Bundt is an emblem of kinder, gentler times, when school bake sales were legal and somebody’s mother would cut one into hunks and call it “coffee cake.” …