Month: June 2019

TueNight 10: Lisa Miller

Age: 56 Quick bio: Lisa Miller is a Contributing Editor at New York Magazine. She lives in Brooklyn with her family and pets – and all the other writers. Beyond the Bio: “I write long-form features for the best magazine out there. It’s a dream. I’ve written about raising kids and genetics and politics and mental health – and menopause! I just published a piece about the intersection between parents who send their kids to Waldorf schools and parents who refuse vaccinate their kids. Waldorf schools have some of the lowest vaccination rates in the country – even in the midst of the biggest measles outbreak since 1994. Although I disagree with these parents, I wanted to try to understand what they were thinking. I love my job because it gives me permission to talk to strangers.” 1. On the nightstand: The Question Authority, a novel by my friend Rachel Cline. Lot, short stories by Bryan Washington, which I picked up at One Story’s Debutante Ball – one of my favorite events of the year. Past issues of the New Yorker. And on my Kindle, The Overstory, by Richard Powers. …

Heather Barmore at Pride Festival

I’m Proud That I Never Had to “Come Out” to My Parents

There is a photo of my friend Hannah taken during the Pride parade in Philadelphia. Her arms are raised to the heavens, the sunlight landing perfectly on her face. Her eyes are closed but she is joyous in a white tee emblazoned with the rainbow colors of Pride. She exudes the freedom of expression that all Gay Pride events represent: gathering, inclusivity, community, and ever present hugging, as we each send well-wishes of ‘HAPPY PRIDE!’. Our community and our allies are exuberant, happy to dress up, to be free. It’s the freedom of loving and being loved.   I posted the rest of my Pride photos to social media for thousands to see, glad that I could revel in a day of such happiness and solidarity. Apparently, there is a thin line of pride between affirming your identity and announcing to your moderately conservative family that you have the right to be happy loving who you want to love. But still, why ruin the illusion? Compartmentalize. Compartmentalize. Compartmentalize.  *** When I was 16 years old, I …

TueNight 10: Doreen Oliver

Quick bio: Doreen is a writer, performer and speaker whose work illuminates the beauty, heartbreak, and unpredictability of life, often through the lens of parenthood. Her award-winning, critically-acclaimed solo show about raising a child with autism, Everything Is Fine Until It’s Not, broke a record for the fastest sell-out of a run in the New York International Fringe Festival’s 20-year history; she’s working on a memoir and tour of the show. Beyond the Bio: “I was very organized before kids. Well, not my desk. Or bedroom. But life: I had a plan, I executed it, then made more plans! Now so much feels unpredictable and out of control — my schedule, my kids’ needs, my thoughts, the layers of crumbs spread about my kitchen table. But all of this has deepened my art, my ability to see and understand others, my awareness of who I am in this moment in time. I feel everything more profoundly than I ever have in my life. Sometimes I’m drowning in messy emotions, but transforming them into a piece of writing that …

Comfy shoes for summer

9 Summer Shoes That Will Keep Your Feet in a State of Happy

Happy feet, it has been said, are the secret to a happy life. Or maybe I just said that. Anyway, as someone with a myriad of foot ailments, I am ALWAYS in search of the next, better, comfy — and not cringingly ugly — shoe.  The kind that keep your heels on a bed of squishy softness, the kind that don’t crunch your toes into a triangular point, the kind that air our tootsies and display our fabulous orange pedi, the kind you can walk in for more than 10 minutes, the kind with enough of a toe box to fit hammertoes and bunions. (Did we say we’re a site for women over 40? We know from toe box) Two of TueNight’s most popular posts are this 2015 one on comfy summer shoes and, go figure, this 2017 one on comfy summer shoes, so clearly we should be a comfy shoes site. Instead, here is our basic update for Summer 2019. This time we asked TueNighters, friends and a few fashionistas about their fave hot weather soles. They …

TueNight 10: Mary Pipher and Sara Pipher Gilliam

Mary (l.) and Sara (r.)  It’s our first mother-daughter TueNight 10! This dynamic duo co-authored the 25th anniversary edition of Mary’s classic Reviving Ophelia, which spent three years on the New York Times bestseller list in the mid-1990s, including 28 weeks at #1. Ages: Mary is 71, and Sara is 42. Quick Bios: Mary is a therapist and clinical psychologist specializing in women, trauma, and the effects of our culture on mental health, which has earned her the title of “cultural therapist” for her generation. She is the author of ten books, including the bestselling The Shelter of Each Other, Another Country, and most recently Women Rowing North. She lives in Lincoln, Nebraska. Sara is Editor-in-Chief of Exchange, a magazine for early childhood professionals. She is also Vice President and a founding board member of Carry the Future, an international refugee relief organization. She lives with her family in Hamilton, Ontario. Beyond the Bios: “We had a very typical mother/daughter relationship in the early 90s—love and affection punctuated by a fair amount of conflict. We could always bond around our great …

TueNight 10: Golda

Age: 41 Quick bio: Golda is a lawyer by day and a singer/songwriter/bassist by night and the occasional late afternoon. Her latest album, “Be My Satellite“, was just released on May 17, 2019 and is available everywhere you get your music or on her official website. Beyond the bio: “I started taking bass lessons at the tender age of 37. I told myself I’d just commit to about 10 lessons, but I ended up diving in head first and within a year I was writing songs. Despite my fat positive background (I took a five-year break from the law to be a full time body love blogger and coach in 2009), I still found myself struggling with whether pursuing music was “worthwhile” and whether I was too old/fat etc. to put myself out there. Luckily, I was able to overcome that crap and started playing out and released my first album in 2017. Now I really embrace the idea that I’m a middle-aged/Gen-X songwriter, writing songs for other people who are around my own age.” 1. On …