About Us


TueNight is a place to get real with other grown-ass women.

We are a platform for women over 40 to share the hilarious, messy and very true stories of our lives. We are women with midlife mojo — from all kinds of backgrounds and experiences — who have seen some things and know some shit.

We share the things that matter to us now — live at our events,  here on the site, in conversations in our Facebook group and in our weekly TueDo List newsletter: well-honed life hacks, the frontline of dating in our 40s and beyond, books and music we know you’ll dig, and tales of people who found the courage to “come out” and be themselves. Even at 46, it’s harder than you think.


Drop us a line: Hello@TueNight.com with questions, writing submissions, partnership or sponsorship inquiries.

The Team


Margit Detweiler, Founder + Editor-in-Chief — @Margit

Rather than rattle off a list of places I’ve worked (which you can see here, or here),  this is where I’m at, right now, in this moment: I’m a writer, editor and digital publishing vet / business owner with a punk-rock heart, a Brooklyn apartment and arthritic knees. I’m also a recent cancer survivor and have chronicled my experiences in the TueNight column, Ovarian Rhapsody.

My best professional experiences have included a combination of creativity, writing, leadership and a work environment filled with ridiculously talented creative spirits. My secret agenda: I’m trying to build that, from scratch.

My TueNight: Wander late night through street lamp-lit New York City streets with my man, a band and a beer at the Bell House, or cuddled up with turmeric tea, reading the new Prince biography (SO good).


Heather M. Graham, Editor — @hmgraham

According to my mother, I was telling “elaborate stories” full of characters by the age of four. I started writing them down much later.

I got my start as a professional writer and editor as an intern/reviewer for Paper magazine’s fledgling website, when launch parties with free booze were de rigueur. I made my bones as a health editor on the launch team of Everyday Health, spent many years at iVillage, and built a digital department for my hometown newspaper, which is not exactly how I imagined it when, at 17, I told my dad I was going to work there someday.

I love to read, bake, talk politics, take a break from talking politics, yell at the news, and spend as much time laughing with good friends as possible.

My TueNight: Binge-watching everything I missed when I didn’t have cable while swearing this pint of ice cream is absolutely the last one.


Margaret Crandall
Margaret Crandall, Newsletter Editor — @cranniem

I grew up in Washington, DC but have called San Francisco home for the last 19+ years. Spent my 20s up to my eyeballs in the ska scene, my 30s and most of my 40s writing and editing at desk jobs, and now I’m kind of just making it up as I go along. My superpowers are dogsitting, decluttering, and spotting typos from great distances. Midcentury antique stores are my kryptonite.

My TueNight: A quick stop at the local dive bar to say hi to friends (and their dogs), followed by getting sucked into Hulu, Etsy’s vintage caftan department, and/or a library book.


Deesha Philyaw

Deesha Philyaw, Moderator — @deeshaphilyaw

I’m a writer, editor, and occasional project manager. My fiction and personal essays focus on race, sex, relationships, and culture. I’ve lived in Pittsburgh 20+ years, but my hometown is Jacksonville, Florida, and I’m still a Southern girl at heart. I have an economics degree that I’ve never used, and for a couple of years, I taught elementary school.

These days, I love writing about dissatisfied women; I’m enthralled by church ladies, in particular. I also enjoy a good spreadsheet probably more than I should, and a nice glass of Malbec, sometimes at the same time.

My TueNight: Curling up in bed with a good novel or short story collection while listening to old school R&B, or dominating my friends in a rousing game of Black Card Revoked.


Thank You’s

Quick thanks to a few more folks who have made this she-bang possible over the years: Adrianna Dufay, Karen Gerwin, Kat Borosky, Darian Harvin, Justine Lorelle LoMonaco, Mark Gardner, Deanna Brown, Susan Linney, Stacy Morrison, Helen Jane Hearn, Erica Hornung, David Young, Elke Hofman, Molly Goldberg, Nancy Gonzalez, Michelle Mangen. You rock.

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