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How to Find Joy During the Pandemic without Feeling Guilty

Published by Amy Barr

A few months back, I turned 60 and my son, Nick, turned 30. We had been planning a joint party with lots of family and friends, but that idea...

November 24, 2020

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Culture

One Cookie at a Time: Carrying the Weight of My Anxiety

Published by Lynn Hepburn

I’ve been anxious for most of my life. I can trace my anxiety back to age six, the year my parents officially separated. Back then, we called my dad...

November 17, 2020

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Stories

An Astrologer’s Self-Care Checklist to Get Us to Inauguration Day

Published by Karrie Myers Taylor

November 4th has come and gone, and guess what? We finally have a President Elect! But we’re a far cry and a million angry White House tweets away from...

November 10, 2020

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Wisdom

Why I Vote: TueNighters Share Highlights from the Polls

Published by Heather Graham

The 2020 election has seemed endless, but we’re almost to the finish line (we hope). TueNighters across the country were among the nearly 100 million voters who’ve already gone...

November 3, 2020

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Culture, Politics

Meet Violet Sky, the 19-Year-Old Living Like It Is 1985

Published by Margit Detweiler

For those of us around in the mid-80s, we may have a fondness or nostalgia (or deep cringe) for teased perms, forearms of black rubber bangles, fluorescent-colored tops and...

October 27, 2020

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Culture, Throwback

I Learned Everything I Know from Harriet the Spy

Published by Fran Mason

Brick houses, courtyard apartments with trees and dirt in the yards, alleys, little grocery stores and bickering neighbors: This was my world, and it was Harriet the Spy’s world,...

October 20, 2020

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Life Lessons, Stories

Silly Things People Have Said to Me When I Tell Them I’m Not Having Kids

Published by Tamar Anitai

There will be no children in my future. Ever. Yes, I am married. Yes, my husband knows that I do not want children. Yes, we both realize we’re extremely...

October 13, 2020

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Love+, Relationships, Stories

The Real Cost of Caregiving

Published by Courtney Colwell

When I was recently in Pittsburgh, giving my sister a much-needed break from taking care of our mother, I heard a sharp cracking sound, followed by something hitting the...

October 6, 2020

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Caregiving, Family, Stories

Siblings at Odds: He’s an Evangelical Preacher, I’m an Atheist

Published by Sara Gilliam

He's conservative; she's liberal — can these two siblings find common ground?

September 29, 2020

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Family, Stories

Nina & Margit September Pop-Culture Roundup

Published by TueNight Crew

Every month (almost) Nina Lorez Collins of The Woolfer and Margit Detweiler (of this here thing, TueNight) get together for a chat about anything and everything pop culture. On...

September 25, 2020

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Culture

Grandma’s: A House Manual in the Age of COVID

Published by Margaret Crandall

Welcome to Grandma’s house. We understand this was not your first choice for a week away from the toxic San Francisco air, especially when the air down here in...

September 22, 2020

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Caregiving, Stories

Come Sleep with Me: Caretaking Mom

Published by Desiree Cooper

When I turned 50, I rediscovered the splendid stretch of my own bed. Marriage-free after 25 years, children grown and gone, no pets with their whiny demands, I could...

September 15, 2020

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Caregiving, Stories

Taking Care of the Strongest Man I Ever Knew

Published by Christine Stroebel

My father asked me, “How long does it take?” I felt all the sound, light, air — everything — leave the room; only the weight of those words...

September 1, 2020

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Loss, Stories

I’m An Insomniac. And I’m Sleeping Like a Baby During the Pandemic

Published by Jenny Douglas

“You know, don’t you, that Cleo chewed on your hair while you were sleeping last night.” Kent, my beloved, is speaking to me from across the kitchen counter about...

August 25, 2020

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Sleep, Stories

Sleeping in My Clothes: Holding Tight to Impetuous Youth

Published by Rachel Kramer Bussel

I woke up this morning in my hotel room wearing a bra and beautiful purple flowered Rachel Roy dress, one that always makes me feel beautiful and yields compliments....

August 18, 2020

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Sleep, Stories

Making Prank Calls: Finding Retribution as a Kid in the 80s

Published by Deesha Philyaw

Growing up, I was a good kid. Forever on honor roll, obedient, well-mannered, and respectful. The kind of kid teachers in the late 70s and early 80s left in...

August 11, 2020

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Life Lessons, Stories

An Astrologer Tells Us Why We Need to Take a Nap Right Now, And Start Dreaming

Published by Karrie Myers Taylor

“I just don’t know what I should be doing right now!”, one of my clients lamented recently. “The world is so messed up, there’s so much I should be...

August 4, 2020

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Astrology, Wisdom

Nope, It Doesn’t Need to be Steamed, Sprayed or Douched

Published by Deesha Philyaw

A few years ago, I was talking with a relative and the talk turned to douches. I don’t remember how we got on this subject, but there we were,...

July 28, 2020

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Wisdom, You Should Know

Black Like Lauryn: How I Went from Baltimore Beauty to Diaspora Darling

Published by Toya R. Smith

My last year in college, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill was everywhere. All we listened to, all we sang. The strains of it wafted on the wind across campus....

July 21, 2020

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Identity, Stories

Summer Book and Amazon Gift Card Giveaway!

Published by TueNight Crew

We’re giving one lucky winner a $100 Amazon gift card and two “literary fans” book packages that feature three titles from Penguin Random House: Mary Gaitskill’s This is Pleasure,...

July 16, 2020

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Giveaways, Stories

TueNight 10: Sherri Franklin

Published by TueNight Crew

Sherri is the CEO of the San Francisco nonprofit Muttville Senior Dog Rescue, which has rescued and found new homes for more than 8,300 dogs since she founded the...

November 19, 2020

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TueNight 10: Brenda Anders Pring

Published by TueNight Crew

Brenda is a primary care pediatrician in Boston, where she provides direct care to kids and their families, teaches pediatrics to medical students, and advocates for better child health...

November 13, 2020

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TueNight10

TueNight 10: Alessandra Henderson

Published by TueNight Crew

Alessandra is the Co-founder & CEO of Elektra Health, a female-founded women’s health startup on a mission to smash the menopause taboo.

November 5, 2020

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TueNight 10: Catherine Connors

Published by TueNight Crew

Catherine is an entrepreneur, writer and recovering academic. She’s the CEO of the League of Badass Women, a private global network for female-identifying leaders, innovators, and change-makers.

October 29, 2020

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TueNight 10: Renee Simms

Published by TueNight Crew

Renee is a novelist, lawyer, and professor interested in Black women’s fiction, the intersections of law and literature. Her writing has appeared in Literary Hub, The Rumpus, Salon and...

October 22, 2020

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TueNight 10: Faith Adiele

Published by TueNight Crew

Faith Adiele is a travel memoirist and essayist, teacher and host, storyteller and speaker who likes to say YES! She was also a writer for A World of Calm...

October 15, 2020

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TueNight10

10 Ways to Keep From Retiring in a Cardboard Box

Published by Caitlin Kelly

I’ve never had access to a 401(k) plan — I’ve been working full-time freelance since 2006. I’ve always wanted to retire, no matter how anathema that sounds in workaholic...

February 21, 2017

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Money

How to Have the Money Talk with Your Parents

Published by Lauren Young

(Photo credit: Stocksy.com) Even if you began planning for your Golden Years at an early age, there is one thing about retirement that no one ever warns you about:...

February 21, 2017

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Money

How a Finance Pro Saves for Retirement After Leaving Her Job

Published by Bobbi Rebell Kaufman

As the author of How to be a Financial Grownup, I am the original Financial Grownup. Right after college, I got my Certificate in Financial Planning so I would...

February 21, 2017

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Money

What No One Tells You About Planning for Retirement

Published by Courtney Colwell

I put at least 10 percent (or is it 15 percent?) of my salary in my 401K every year. I contribute to a ROTH every other year (or so)....

March 22, 2016

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Money

9 Summer Shoes That Will Keep Your Feet in a State of Happy

Published by Margit Detweiler

Happy feet, it has been said, are the secret to a happy life. Or maybe I just said that. Anyway, as someone with a myriad of foot ailments, I...

June 18, 2019

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Fashion, Stories, Style

Lipstick Secrets: My Quest to Wear Parallel Red, Forever

Published by Alison Mazer

In 1986, during my first month of college at SUNY Purchase, I spotted a woman on campus wearing the most beautiful, fire-engine-red lipstick — and no other makeup. Just...

April 30, 2019

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Beauty, Style

The Magic of the Bitch and Swap

Published by Wendy Marston

Long ago in the 1990s, when I was a freelance magazine writer, I never had enough of anything — money, love, other people, and of course, clothing. I worked...

April 25, 2017

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Fashion

18 Seriously Comfortable Shoes for Spring and Summer

Published by Margit Detweiler

My shoe predicament has become even worse. About two springs ago, when I was on the hunt for the bestest, comfiest, maybe even cute-in-a-certain-light pair of shoes, I wrote...

April 11, 2017

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Style

I Let My Student Talk Me Into Botox

Published by Nicola Prentis

Dr. M wasn’t my doctor; he was my student. Normally at 10 a.m. on a Monday morning, we were in his office having English class. But today, I was...

March 28, 2017

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Beauty

How to Build the Perfect Bed

Published by Jody Jones

Photo courtesy Jody Jones Sleep, that elusive and temperamental beast. I’ve spent my adulthood seeking it like Godzilla hunts Mothra, or the way that perimenopausal women look for sleep....

February 7, 2017

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Style, The Bod

TueNight Live: Photos from “First Jobs” at The Wing

Published by TueNight Crew

All photos by Erika Hokanson. We worked Fashion Week, drove a Weinermobile, toured with RuPaul, sold chocolate chip cookies — and got more than we bargained for. These were...

April 24, 2018

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TueNight Events, Video

Now That I’m Over 40, I Cannot and I Will Not… (VIDEO)

Published by TueNight Crew

“Stop cursing like a sailor!” “Stop having adventures.” “Wear Spanx.” Hell to the yes, sister. We asked several women over 40 about the things they can’t stop/ won’t stop...

November 7, 2017

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Video