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My TueNight 10: Elana Rabinovitz

Elana Rabinowitz is a self-described late bloomer. She was 24 when she learned to ride a bike; 45 when she published her first article. “After a failed attempt at fertility in my early 40’s,” says Elana, “I needed to ‘give birth’ to something, to change my life somehow, and writing did that.” She located a former professor, Susan Shapiro, and took her “Instant Gratification Takes Too Long” writing seminar. “She focused on humiliation essays, and when I read mine to the class, I was overcome with positive feedback — that became my first published piece. From there, I just kept going.” Elana has since had essays published in The New York Times and The Washington Post, and one story was just chosen to be in Chicken Soup for The Soul: The Power of Yes. By day, Elana teaches ESL at a middle school in Fort Greene, Brooklyn. 1. On the nightstand: Zadie Smith’s Feel Free, an assortment of Malcolm Gladwell Books and my travel alarm clock. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Searching for the perfect felt …

Now That I’m Over 40, I Cannot and I Will Not… (VIDEO)

“Stop cursing like a sailor!” “Stop having adventures.” “Wear Spanx.” Hell to the yes, sister. We asked several women over 40 about the things they can’t stop/ won’t stop doing, now that they (we) are grown-ass women. We filmed this at our last TueNight Live event in Manhattan, sponsored by AARP (High five AARP! We love our sponsors!) and we’re so happy to have them sponsor this video. It’s all part of their mission to reinvent what it means to age — aka #DisruptAging. So now that YOU are over 40, what’s the thing you won’t stop doing? Watch this video and then tell us in the comments below. We’ll be rounding them up to share, compare and celebrate. No effs left to give. We’re #NobodysMaam

What’s the Most Ageist Thing Anyone Has Ever Said to You? (VIDEO)

“You’re old!” “When are you going to dye your hair?” “You look great for your age!” We asked several women over 40 to share the rudest, funniest, and just plain strange comments they’ve heard about being the age they are. Which um, isn’t old, by the way. We filmed this at our last TueNight Live event in Manhattan, sponsored by AARP (High five AARP! We love our sponsors!) and we’re so happy to have them sponsor this video. It’s all part of their mission to reinvent what it means to age — aka #DisruptAging. What’s the most ageist thing anyone’s ever said to you? Watch this video and then tell us YOUR most ageist story in the comments below. We’ll be rounding them up to share for collective commiseration.  We’re #NobodysMaam.  

TueNight Live: Photos from “TRUST”

Walking into the red room at Spring Place, one of our storytellers, Jenny Douglas squealed, “This place is like a ’70s sunken living room!” Later, she corrected herself and whispered, “No, it’s more as if Hugh Hefner had a vagina. I love it.” Last week, on October 17, we brought TueNight Live and our TRUST issue,  to the seriously swanky Spring Place, where we shared wine, sandwiches, and — of course — stories, in a sort of loungey theater in the square, with a beautiful view of Tribeca. Margit kicked off the evening, thanking both Spring Place for hosting and our evening’s sponsor, AARP. Reading her story via her phone — because 2017 — Dori Fern described how choosing calm over chaos improved her relationship with her kids. (While she read her story off her phone, her daughter actually texted her, “do you have the laundry card on you?”) After fixing our microphone (it was backward — sigh) Crystal Durant told a harrowing story of learning her father was untrustworthy. Oft CNN contributor Sally Kohn posed …

Get Tickets to Our Next Event in Manhattan!

  CLICK HERE FOR TICKETS! Join the TueNight crew for an evening of storytelling around the theme TRUST. We’ll be in the swanky Spring Place red room, where we’ll drink cocktails, enjoy hors d’oeuvres and put our trust in — who else? Each other. Our Storytellers: Jenny Douglas (@BrooklynCottage), founder of The Brooklyn Cottage, television producer, and helper of women going through divorce Issa Mas (@IssaMas), New York single mom balancing writing, raising a 10-yr-old and staying sane. BlogHer Voice of the Year, 2012 Sally Kohn (@sallykohn), founder and CEO of the Movement Vision Lab and CNN commentator Crystal Durant (@DJCrystalClear6), Black Renaissance woman, vocalist and performance artist who writes for the Z Review and Forces of Geek Lu Chekowsky, SVP of Brand Creative at Comedy Central. She once ate a turkey sandwich with Britney Spears Dori Fern (@dorifern), Content marketing strategist and award-winning latke expert CLICK HERE FOR TICKETS!

TueNight Live: Glowing on a Brooklyn Rooftop [PHOTOS]

Could there be a more beautiful night? On June 27 we took our latest event, GLOW, to the rooftop of the co-working space and sponsor Industrious Brooklyn. The sky was, indeed, glowing. All photos are by the wonderful Kalya O’Donoghue. Hosts Karen and Margit mingle with friend (and TueNight contributor) Lauren Young. Over 80 people joined us! Our biggest crowd yet.  Margit introduced our esteemed batch of beautiful storytellers. Carolyn Edgar kicked things off with her poignant (and very relatable) essay bemoaning the difficulty of pleasing both her kids and herself at the same time. Amy Silverstein ducked in between TV interviews to read from her moving, beautiful new book The Glory Was I Had Such Friends. We were rapt… Then Alice brought down the house, as she does, with her narration of a very non-romantic night of edible ingestion. We took a pause to eat some of the delicious food provided by Brooklyn locals R & D foods and Alta Calidad. We gave ourselves a little “glow” from BeautyCounter. And of course we drank rosé. Duh. Copies of Amy, Alice and Stephanie’s books were available …

TueNight Live: Photos From “SWAP”

We came, we listened, we drank, we noshed and of course we swapped! Last Tuesday, we huddled at the lovely Collab fabrication, lab and innovation studio, in downtown Manhattan to hear a host of hilarious and moving TueNight tales about life swaps — from changing our age, to career pivots to spiritual transformations. And people brought personal items to swap. More on that below. (All photos by Kacy Jahanbini unless otherwise noted.) Margit introduced the night of readers, thanked the wonderful Adina Levin for hosting at her space, and gave props to Tattly for providing the evening’s body art. Lynn Harris kicked off the evening with some feminist mojo, reading “Why I Changed My Son’s Last Name to My Own.” Wendy Marston described, in bitchy detail, “The Magic of the Bitch and Swap.” Wendy Sachs gave us her expertise on career swaps after a few of her own, which she charts in her new book Fearless and Free: How Smart Women Pivot and Relaunch their Careers. (Highly recommended!) We always love to see a few regulars and meet a few newbies. …

10 Ways We Remember When Music Was a “Thing”

 Remember when music was a physical object — before it was just an ethereal file floating from one digital device to another? There were technical snafus, social mores and some heavy lifting that went along with the era of vinyl and magnetic tape. Herein, a few: 1. Using a pencil to fix an unraveling cassette tape. 2. Moving boxes and boxes of LPs from dorm room to apartment to apartment (Sorry, Dad.) 3. Merging record and CD collections with your partner. My rule: Do not merge until married. (And even then, Dave Matthews is never allowed to mingle) via GIPHY 4. Taping over someone else’s mixtape. The ultimate diss.  5. Using Scotch tape as a cassette-tape wonder tool. By taping over the little notches on top to record a mixtape over an unwanted cassette. 6. 8-Track Tapes And that satisfying sound of the 8-track tape clicking and connecting into its gears in your parents’ Buick Regal car radio. 7. When people actually cared about speakers. via GIPHY 8. Losing the 45 spider Aka that little …

TueNight Live: Photos From Our Night of #FAIL

This edition of TueNight Live was a disaster! A flop! A miserable wreck! We jest — it was just our stories about tragic jobs, bad (and smelly) dates and persistent pain that made our evening one big FAIL. For this edition, we huddled into the gorgeous Friends Work Here co-working space in Brooklyn, gabbed and drank with our readers and writers, and enjoyed a riveting, emotional, hilarious evening of snafus and storytelling. Here are a few snaps:                                        

TueNight Live: We Party with Our Sisters [Photos]

Whee —  our seventh TueNight Live event, people! This thing is becoming real, real. Once again we brought our issue to life, this time with the theme, “Sisters,” honoring both our biological sibs as well as the many women with whom we feel so close. We gathered at The Wren Downstairs, a lovely, cozy room below a charming restaurant on Bowery and Great Jones Streets in Manhattan. Tasty cocktails paid homage to some of the badass sister matchups of our era. Margit started us off, talking about the sister-filled Women’s March and what it meant to her — excerpts from her Margit’s Note. Adrianna read a piece from her own sister, Lindsay El Tabsh, about how sisters can help us through even the saddest of days. Penny Wrenn described the joy and heartbreak of being a black woman with a white sister. Then a quick break to eat some delicious empanadas. We came back to nary a dry eye in the house as artist/activist Abby Dobson sang of the unremembered black women lost at the hands of police violence, inspired by AAPF’s #SayHerName campaign. Here’s a brief video of Abby …

We Toast 2016: Some Good Things Actually Happened

Man, it has been a shitty year. From the music world alone, we lost Bowie, Prince, Leonard Cohen and Sharon Jones. We lost our chance at electing the first woman president of the United States. And, everyday, we get to watch our buffoon of a President Elect attempt to distract us from his disastrous cabinet appointments with the Twitter stream of a toddler. Good times! Still, throughout this terrible year, many wonderful things did bring us joy. We asked several TueNight contributors to write in with their toasts to some of their favorite moments of the year.   Mallory Kasdan 2016 has been marred by loss and violence constant enough to numb. So I’ve found it helpful to cling to art, and especially to music, as a salve. Released days after a disastrous and surreal presidential election, A Tribe Called Quest’s final album WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE THANK U 4 YOUR SERVICE is potent and prescient, calling out for justice and healing in these raw times. Phife Dawg, who died suddenly in 2016 …

Editor’s Note: We Raise Our Glass (You Bet Your Ass)

Salud! Sláinte! A votre santé! Gan Bei! L’Chaim! We couldn’t think of a better way to kick off the holiday season than a TueNight issue devoted to toast(s). It has been a doozy of a year. The last month, in particular, has left many of us on the floor, wondering where we are as a country and how we can possibly face what’s in front of us. But in the spirit of brighter futures, we decided to take time to celebrate the good that we have in our world right now. As we looked back on 2016, we thought about who and/or what we wanted to toast the most: YOU. The TueNight community. To all of you who have contributed your own stories this year. To everyone who came to the Pussy Party in November. To anyone who commented on our Facebook and Instagram posts or tweeted and re-tweeted. To those who commented on our stories and responded to our writers. To our survey participants. To every TueNight reader. There are far too many of …

Post-Election Do’s and Don’ts: Everyday Tips to Be a Better Human

DO: Engage in conversations, even if they’re difficult. Be mindful of your spending; vote with your dollar. Have coffee or share a meal with someone who you think is different from you. If you see someone being harassed, use your privilege to protect them. Do your own research by reading independent journalists and non-mainstream media. Speak up. Document hate crimes and hate speech. Make an effort to smile at someone; it could turn their day around and make them feel less lonely. Educate yourself on issues of racial justice. Challenge your thinking and behavior. Amplify voices that may not be mainstream. Be mindful in your consumption. Get to know your neighbors. Build your local community. — Suzan Bond and Kia M. Ruiz. Suzan Bond is a Fast Company contributor and the founder of Bet On Yourself, which supports independent internet creators through business, marketing, and branding strategy.  Kia M. Ruiz is a environmental and consumer resource consultant. You can read more of her writing at Bodhibear.net.   DON’T: Assume that you can pick up stakes and move to Canada. Or New Zealand. Or anywhere else. If you’re serious about becoming an expat, form a logical plan and know that …

Women in Midlife Share Memories of Sexual Assault

When we talked about doing an issue around sexual assault, there was a collective head nod. So many of us have experienced incidents in one form or another. Now in our 30s, 40s and beyond, we may have shrugged off the minor incidents, worked through the more egregious attacks with our shrinks or kept them locked up in a secret brain vault. But we’ve never, ever forgotten. We asked a few of our contributors to share their stories — reading them we find a common theme of confusion and shame that lingers. Collected here, these vignettes remind us we’re not alone and that there’s power in sharing.   Il Bastardo I’m 20 years old in Europe traveling with a girlfriend over the summer. We’re in Pisa, having pizza at a cafe after the requisite tower viewing. My friend is an extrovert; I’m an introvert. At the cafe, she’s talking and laughing with our waiter. She even asks him for a cigarette. This mortifies me, but I can’t tell if it’s because it seems potentially dangerous …

Speak Your Sadness, Speak Your Hope [VIDEO]

We are devastated by the horrific events of the last few days and want to share what we are feeling  — and what you are feeling. TueNight is not a news outlet, but we’re an outlet for emotion and experience. So we wanted to open our platform up to you. Tell us anything: Where are you? What are you thinking? How are you taking care of yourself and your loved ones. Speak your sadness. Speak your hope. (You can record a video from your phone or screen and hit submit and you can redo as many times as you want to get it right. It may take a few minutes for your video to show up; we're doing some light monitoring behind the scenes.)

8 Items We’re Pink-ing for Spring

Now that it’s officially spring, we are so ready to bust out a bare leg and embrace the SUN. It’s about this time we start thinking pink — a color that’s never a wrong choice when things heat up. So we asked our contributors, beauty and fashion experts for a few blush-hued items they are coveting this spring.   1. Flower Transforming Touch Powder To Creme Blush in Tickled Pink   This Flower Beauty blush is the only blush I’ve used since testing it a year ago. It’s amazing, and all I want is for Drew Barrymore to make it in a smaller size so I don’t have to pack this gigunda blush when I travel (but I always do). I have at least three backups in case it gets discontinued. $12.33, Walmart   — Amber Katz, Beauty Blogger and Founder of Rouge18.com   2. Kate Spade Passport Holder I haven’t traveled internationally in at least five years, but I’ve had to whip out my passport a lot in that time whenever I complete tax forms or an I-9 for a new assignment. Thanks to …

10 Healthy Hacks for the New Year

This post brought to you by Healthy Choice. It’s cold, you and your family want to cozy up by a fire — or at least some binge-able tv — and life should be easy. But can it be healthy, too? Please? Here at TueNight we’ve come up with a few of our favorite wellness, nutritional and fitness hacks to keep 2016 focused on a healthy lifestyle. You’re welcome. 1. Bag Carrots for You! When you pack your kids’ lunch, make an extra little baggie of baby carrots for yourself. Put them immediately in your purse. Eat them when you’re standing in line at the post office and stave off your afternoon candy craving. 2. Make it Easy to Eat Together. You’re more likely to make better foods for your family than you would for yourself. If everyone doesn’t like the same food, keep it easy by using a variety of tasty Healthy Choice Café Steamers which come in a variety of flavors. The adults might dig the spicy Southwestern Style Chicken, and little Ruby always goes …

Talk TueNight: Cocktails and the Corporeal [Photos]

For the September 29 edition of our Tak TueNight series, we gathered in a lovely Chelsea townhouse to discuss all things BODY — from how we treat our bodies to how our bodies are changing (ahem, WTF?!) as we age. Here are some snaps of a fabulous night. Special thank you to our chief sponsors Gwynnie Bee and Spruce  & Co. and our programming sponsors Tattly, Equinox and Hint Water. Sign up for our newsletter to be alerted about our next event in November! All photos by Owen McLean.    

Tell Us! What Do You Love About Your Body?

When you think about your body, what do you love most? Your sturdy hands? Your luxurious locks? Sure, we've all got complaints -- but this is your chance to brag. It's super easy to record a video right from your phone or screen and hit submit, so join us in the fun. You can even redo as many times as you want to get it right. And don't be disappointed if it takes a few minutes for your video to show up; we're doing some light monitoring behind the scenes.

15 Women Reveal Their Madonna “Life Moments”

Where were you when Madonna told you to Express Yourself? Had you been living in a Material World? Cherish-ing your boy toy? Desperately seeking a place to Vogue? We asked our contributors and friends for those moments in time when Madge was the backdrop to their lives — the soundtrack, the fashion, the filmic inspiration and even a dinner party companion.   “Borderline” I tried out for Drill Team in junior high to the song “Borderline.” I didn’t like Madonna. I had no desire to try out for drill team. I had no dance skills. The only way you were allowed to try out for drill team, however, was as a four-person squad. So I was drafted by three of my friends to complete theirs. We practiced relentlessly (six times counts as relentless when you’re 13). When the time came to perform and the play button on the boom box was hit, Ms. Carter gave us the head bob that said “YOU’RE ON!” I thought we actually had a shot. Twenty seconds later, I managed …

Talk TueNight: Been Around the World [Photos]

Sixty+ women joined us last Tuesday night as eight storytellers took us on a round-the-world tour: Singing through Buenos Aires, hitchhiking across Italy, under the Great Barrier reef, returning to Haiti and more. For our fourth live storytelling evening, we partnered with Yahoo Travel who hosted us in their lovely Midtown offices. The event was also a benefit for the wonderful organization Girls Write Now. Here are some of the photos from a raucous, hilarious and moving evening of tales, courage and worldwide jaunts. Margit had a chance to interview Yahoo Travel’s Paula Froelich, and the star of A Broad Abroad, who talked about how “travel is not a luxury anymore, it’s a mandate.” We should all get our of our comfort zone, embrace more life leaps and travel. “If your gut tells you it’ll work, it’ll work!” said Froelich. She vouched wholeheartedly for traveling solo, which segued nicely into Courtney Colwell’s piece later that evening.   Courtney reads her piece Cyclone Approaching! Why I Chose to Dive Anyway. “A remote rocky beach in Greece? Sign my shit up.” — …

What’s Your Best Reunion Story? [VIDEO]

Are you still the same nerd at your high school reunion? When you're at your annual family get-together, is your aunt still pressuring you (at 45) to "settle down and have kids, already"? Tell us your funniest, most ridiculous reunion story. Bonus points for forgotten names. It's super easy to record a video right from your phone or screen and hit submit, so join us in the fun. You'll have 22 seconds to tell your story and you can redo as many times as you want to get it right. And don't be disappointed if it takes a few minutes for your video to show up; we're doing some light monitoring behind the scenes.

Talk TueNight: What’s In a Name? [Photos]

Last Tuesday, over 50 people joined us for storytelling and conversation about “Names” — the ones we choose with a purpose and the ones we get by happy accident, the ones that let us know we are loved, and the ones that seem like a bad joke. Held at WeWork Park South, we heard from Penny Wrenn, Siobhan Adcock, Kathleen Warner, Neil Kramer, Naama Bloom, and TueNight’s Margit Detweiler, all read their fabulous posts from that week’s issue. Amy S. Choi and Rebecca Lehrer, co-founders of one of our favorite websites, The Mash-Up Americans, moderated a panel on names, identity and ethnicity with Mash Up contributors Sharda Sekaran and Sy Yang. Mash Up contributor and panelist Sy Yang let us raffle off one of her unbelievably soft and gorgeous baby blankets, which are good enough for adults, and make great shower gifts. Here is HelloFlo founder Naama Bloom reading her story about changing her name. Attendee Dori Fern listens in with a cold brew.  Amy S. Choi, Rebecca Lehrer of The Mash-Up Americans and contributors Sy Yang and Sharda Sekrahn had a great discussion about …

My Fantasy Name Is…

What if, just for kicks, you could change your name? What would you call yourself? At our Talk TueNight event on April 28, we had a fantastic roundtable hosted by The Mash-Up Americans, and one of our favorite parts was when they asked folks on the panel — and then in the audience — what their fantasy name was. Some wished for a simpler, more easily pronounceable name while others longed for something more exotic. What's yours — and why? It's super easy to record a video right from your phone or screen and hit submit, so join us in the fun. You'll have 22 seconds to tell your story and you can redo as many times as you want to get it right. And don't be disappointed if it takes a few minutes for your video to show up; we're doing some light monitoring behind the scenes.

Talk TueNight: Dishing on Food, Sex and Being a Grown-Ass Woman [Photos]

Nearly 50 intrepid TueNight fans trekked through blizzard-like conditions (okay, a little snow) last Tuesday night to join us for our very first #TalkTueNight storytelling event. Stacy Morrison, Ashley Ford, Tamar Anitai and Heather Barmore read their fabulous posts from our Desire issue. Our fearless leader, Margit, also interviewed Alex Jamieson, the best-selling author of Women, Food, and Desire. This all went down at 61 Local on Bergen Street in Brooklyn.   Our venue, 61 Local, has amazing food, cheese and we kinda went crazy for the beef jerky.     We mingled with friends old and new before we got started with the readings.     We snuck up on Tamar Anitai prepping for her reading. She read parts one and two of her 30 Day attempt to divest from sugar. And she brought the house down. “I found myself in sweats (some errant pieces of burrito rice dotting my lap, natch), hate-watching Donnie Loves Jenny on A&E, when I fell down a hole of fuck-this-I’m-a-grown-woman-I-can-do-whatever-I-want just like Beyoncé and ate a frozen coconut bar that’d been in my freezer since …

We Asked Our Readers About TueNight. Here’s What You Said

After a year and a half of publishing TueNight (from our offices, from home in pajamas, from far-flung spots as varied as Virginia and Ireland), we were curious to hear from you, our readers. We wanted to get in your heads a bit and hear what you’re thinking: What do you dig? What are you bored of? And how can you tell us this really great theme you’ve been waiting for us to pick? So we set up a very short questionnaire online and asked. (Only five questions? That’s like a speed date!) Nothing majorly soul-searching, just a gut check to make sure we’re having the right conversations. And we loved your responses — which we will now share. We can’t thank you enough for your time and your thoughts. Here are our questions and your answers. 1. What themes should TueNight.com do next? It was very interesting to see that lots of you want to talk about relationships: specifically, reconnecting with spouses, dating after divorce, dealing with kids in college, being the non-mom around …