Year: 2019

Am I Bullied by the Past

Am I Bullied by the Past? Or Just by My Memories?

In the very early days of Facebook, back when people “poked” each other, I received two friend requests, both from women I’d originally met in Grade 8. Both sent me chatty messages, congratulating me on the arrival of my new baby, commiserating about the trials of integrating newborns into the emotional lives of their toddler siblings, and updating me on their whereabouts, relationships and careers over the previous 20 years. The irony of their sweet messages wasn’t lost on me. In the eighth grade, I’d been the new kid, parachuted across the country from my tiny, all-girls, private-school class in Vancouver, British Columbia, to a public junior high in suburban Toronto. I was awkward, friendless, and scared, all of which was likely noted by the group of girls I half-fell in with. I spent that year in a state of watchfulness, arriving at school each morning wary about how my status in the group might have shifted overnight.  Toward the end of the year, an anonymous, handwritten note appeared in my art folder. The letter, …

TueNight 10: Evelyn Taylor Bonner

Evelyn Taylor Bonner with her wares at the West Elm in Red Bank, New Jersey (photo courtesy Evelyn Taylor Bonner) Age: 53 Quick bio: Evelyn is a full-time ceramic artist living in the super-hip Philly suburb of Collingswood, New Jersey. Her work is featured at the five West Elm stores in New Jersey, and she’s currently busy filling wholesale orders and prepping for her 7th annual Open Studio event happening December 7-8.  Beyond the bio: “I’ve worked my ass off to get here, and now, at 53, I’m kinda living the dream. So much therapy, so much hard work, and so many supportive friends helped me get here. I married an amazing man whom I had known for 30 years prior (friendship turned to romance), left behind a 20 year arts-marketing career to become a full-time artist, and reluctantly adopted my MIL’s cat who’s now a miracle of love in our home. It’s not always easy around here, but I’m incredibly grateful.” 1. On the nightstand: Weekly New York Times mag. Now if I could only …

TueNight 10: Kate Hanley

Age: 49. I actually enjoy saying the number because in my mind I’m already telling myself I’m 50 in preparation; but I’ve still got seven months of my 40s left, dammit! Quick Bio: Kate is the host of the podcast “How to Be a Better Person” and author of the book of the same name. She lives in Providence, RI with her husband, two kids, and a rescue dog named Cookie. Beyond the Bio: “The thing I love the most about full-on middle age is losing the compulsion to have people like me and speaking up; the thing that trips me out is all the things you thought would never happen to you, happening to you: crepey skin, thinning hair, a new sun spot every week, needing reading glasses, developing a wattle, feeling time speed up. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I’m like, “who is that?” But, hey, I’m younger than I’ll ever be, and I’m fairly healthy. I appreciate these things immensely and really try not to take them for granted.”  1. On the …

TueNight 10: Stephanie Genkin

Age: 54 Quick Bio: Stephanie Genkin is a Certified Financial Planner and Founder of My Financial Planner,LLC, a New York Registered Investment Advisor, working with real people on an hourly basis. She is a media strategist for the nonprofit organization World Learning and an adjunct instructor at NYU. Stephanie is also a proud sponsor of 2019 TueNight storytelling events. Beyond the bio: “I think my family is still pretty shocked I became a career money geek, having shown no interest in earning a buck or living in a capitalist country for a good chunk of my adult life. I’m still amazed at the painless transition of my professional identity from roving print reporter in the Middle East to CNN interview producer to financial advisor for the 99 percent.” 1. On the nightstand: How to be an Antiracist (JUST READ IT!);  The Hidden Life of Trees, because I love walking and spend time in nature this time of year; Persian Mirrors, it’s been around for awhile but I want Elaine Sciolino to be my writing teacher and her books are the next best thing; …

Green on the Green: Learning Golf at 59

Amy hits the green on the Kissing Camels Course in Colorado Springs last month. (Photo courtesy of the author) The ball sat high on the tee, as if waiting patiently while I ran through my mental checklist.  Lean forward – but not too much. Bend your knees – but not too much.  Turn your hips and shoulders – but not your head. Follow through – definitely follow through. I swung the club, anticipating the thwack! that signals a solid drive. Nope. Not a sound, except the swoosh of my driver pushing the air.  This frustrating scenario is a familiar one, as I have recently set about learning the torturous sport of golf.  It feels weird to be an absolute beginner at age 59. I’m a veteran at so many things at this point: writing, marriage, mothering, and yoga, to name a few. But in the realm of golf, a true beginner is what I am indeed, right down to having to learn the anatomy of a golf club. (Who knew there was a heel and …

Nancy Rabinowitz Friedman

TueNight 10: Nancy Rabinowitz Friedman

Nancy (at right), with her Feed Our Democracy Partner Isabel Kallman, giving out free hugs at the NYC Pride parade Age: 54 Quick bio: Nancy is one of the co-founders of Feed Our Democracy, a grassroots organization dedicated to encouraging activism and raising hell. She is the co-founder of KidzVuz Media, and the vice chair of the board of Transport Theatre Group, an off-Broadway theatre company.   Beyond the Bio: “The hardest part about being over 50 is the invisibility, but it’s also the most freeing. It’s only when the general public started looking at me less that I was able to see myself more clearly.”  1. On the nightstand: The Porpoise, by Mark Haddon (he also wrote The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time), Do Not Say We Have Nothing, by Madeline Thien. And ,very uncharacteristically for me, since I almost exclusively read fiction, Sapiens, by Youval Noah Harrari. That last one is brilliant but slow going. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Eating carbs. Life is not worth living without carbs. Seriously. 3. Jam of the minute: I’m a Broadway Geek. (I even …

TueNight 10: Felicity Enders

Age: 47. I think. I always have to stop and do the math! Quick Bio: Felicity is a Professor of Biostatistics at Mayo Clinic, where she leads a large group of clinical statisticians. Now that she’s a full professor, she’s become open about her interest in diversity and inclusion. Beyond the Bio: “I really enjoy finally being old enough to say what I really think. So, now I’m working on ‘softening my image’ to avoid scaring people too much when I tell it like it is.” 1. On the nightstand: Jason Fung’s The Complete Guide to Fasting 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Talking (bragging or worrying) about kids 3. Jam of the minute: 1491 audiobook. Third time through! 4. Thing I miss: Ummmm… living in the moment without serious care for the future. 5. 80s crush: Tom Cruise. Who now makes me shudder.  6. Current crush: Matt Damon. Can’t get enough! 7. Will whine about: Chronic sleep deprivation  8. Will wine about: Any interaction with former sexist/racist boss 9. Best thing that happened recently: Husband became a stay at home dad. HOORAY!!!!! 10. Looking forward to: Going to Sicily …

Benish Shah and Carla Zanoni at TueNight Live

TueNight 10: Carla Zanoni

Benish Shah (left) and Carla Zanoni at TueNight’s Day of Action Age: 45  Quick bio: Carla is a digital strategist, writer and journalist in NYC. She is working on a memoir about the recovery of self worth, based on her 21-year journey from drug addiction to career and life success. Beyond the Bio: “When I turned 40 I had a beautiful moment as I walked down the street: I liked myself. I realized I had managed to not only survive, but thrive. Now I feel a confidence, steadiness, and self love I hadn’t experienced before. This feels like the combined gifts of self inquiry, the power of age and experience.” 1. On the nightstand: The Buly 1803 rose oil I put on my face and elbows before bed, a new 5 year journal where I keep a gratitude list, about 20 different pens, an azurite malachite stone I bought in Paris, and a tiny ceramic jar I reach for each night after I realize I once again forgot to take out my earrings before going to sleep.  2. Can’t …

TueNight 10: Penelope Codrington

Age: 52  Quick bio: Penelope dreams of abandoning her legal career and surrendering to her vocation: purposeful storytelling. She enjoys writing essays and performing stories with a social justice or uplifting theme and is grateful for any opportunity to share them. Beyond the Bio: “A decade ago, I decided that I was tired of feeling invisible. I forced myself to speak up, stand out and choke down feelings of insecurity in places and situations where I felt unwelcome. It’s been a life changing exercise, so freeing and empowering.” 1. On the nightstand: Guanahani, My Love by Marion Bethel, a wonderful attorney/poet/writer/activist from The Bahamas. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: I’m obsessed with the scary drama of the impeachment proceedings. 3. Jam of the minute: Any tune on the Deep House or Frankie Knuckles stations on Pandora. 4. Thing I miss: Dancing in New York night clubs until closing, emerging tired and happy to a bright Sunday morning and slowly walking home drinking a New York Seltzer peach soda. 5. 80s crush: LL Cool J 6. Current crush: Brian K. (my dude), the sweetest, sexiest man ever!  He’s …

TueNight 10: Cara Raich

Age: 45 Quick Bio: Cara, a former attorney, is a mediator and group dialogue specialist who engages with institutions to help create more respectful workplace cultures and solve employee relations or governance conflicts. Cara also helps groups of all types have challenging conversations in a structured and productive manner. Beyond the bio: “Having been to almost 30 countries, I’d say travel early and often. And at some point do it alone. Solo travel is so empowering. Nothing beats adding to one’s memory bank and experiencing new people and cultures is a wonderful way to do that. And have girlfriends. Good, solid girlfriends who will tell you when your clothes are awful, your hair is a mess and you have food in your teeth, who then hug you and give you wine.” 1. On the nightstand: She Said, the jaw dropping back story of the Harvey Weinstein story told by the reporters who broke the story, Jodi Kantor and Megan Twohey. Just read it. These women are remarkable professionals who exemplified tenacity, journalistic integrity, grit and excellent judgment …

The Welcome Issue

Margit Note’s: We are so thrilled to have Sloane Davidson guest-curate TueNight’s Welcome issue. As the founder of Hello Neighbor, Sloane works tirelessly for the needs of refugee families, helping them acclimate to their everyday lives here in the U.S., by connecting them with neighbors and mentors in their new neighborhoods. So she is particularly apt to edit this edition all about the many paths and journeys to becoming an American citizen. Here’s Sloane: I have the immense privilege to spend a lot of time with refugee families. As the founder of a nonprofit that supports recently resettled refugees through mentorship, I can often find myself sitting on the floor playing with children, profusely thanking moms for their tea and hospitality, or shaking hands and showing my respect to elders.  But my life wasn’t always like this.  When I became pregnant with my first child, I felt a draw for my unborn child to be around extended family. And so after 16 years of living away, I moved back to Pittsburgh, my beloved hometown, and was …

TueNight Live: Photos From Our #DayofAction

All photos by Neil Kramer On September 17, National Constitution and Citizenship Day, we gathered in Brooklyn for a truly impactful #DayofAction. With our friends from Feed Our Democracy, and essays curated by Sloane Davidson of Hello Neighbor, we listened to TueNighters share their stories while raising thousands of dollars for Hello Neighbor, an organization that helps new refugees settle in the U.S. via mentorship programs. Here are some photos from a fantastic evening of doing good. See even more photos on Facebook It’s always a fulfilling, hilarious, thought-provoking night at a TueNight Live! Thanks to all our sponsors — Ruth Ann Harnisch, Hint, Industrious, My Financial Planner, R&D FOods and #TueNighters! Thanks for coming out and see you next time!

TueNight 10: Benish Shah

Age: 37 Quick bio: Benish has worked in almost every industry from law to baby food to tech, and kind of loves it. She’s currently the Chief Growth Officer for Loop and Tie. She is the author of the children’s book The Splendiferous Spillerella and has a new book for adults in the works. Beyond the Bio: “If 25 year old me saw my life right now, she would be both sad, confused, and incredibly proud. I’ve survived PTSD — some Lifetime-movie level life things — switched careers and industries, and live in an apartment with a view I could have only dreamed of.  My life has been nothing that I imagined it would be, good and bad. My only true unanswered question in life is: why did Mindy Kaling get famous before me? Because now everyone says I talk like her…but have they ever considered, she talks like me?” 1. On the nightstand: A book of poems by Nikita Gill, lavender balm by Eu Genia, and yes an obsidian stone that sits on my book of Muslim prayers. …

The 5th Grade Mehndi Mishap

In the early 1990s, most people didn’t know what henna was, let alone the variation of the word “mehndi.” You see, Gwen Stefani had not happened at that time, and mainstream audiences hadn’t quite accepted that South Asia was “the land of colors and magic” just yet. During that time, my family lived in a town called Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania. I say that as if the town does not exist anymore, but it does, and we still have extended family who love living there.  The Mechanicsburg of the early ‘90s was different than it is now. There weren’t many minorities. In fact, in my entire elementary school there was one African American kid. He was the adopted son of our wonderful and white Principal, Ms. Ingram. The other minorities in school consisted of: me, my younger sister, and an Asian girl named Chloe whom I tried, and failed, to befriend. She was cooler than me back then because the early ‘90s was also not the age of the smart-girl dominance. Despite the lack of diversity, Mechancisburg …

American Accent: Passing — and not Passing — as a Latina

(Carla and her parents. Photo courtesy of the author.) One of my favorite childhood memories is of me sitting with my mother on her bed, recording ourselves reading articles to one another. She would look at me and slowly say, acutely aware of her Argentine accent, “I am prac-tis-sing my ello-cue-shon en Eng-lish,” and I would fall into a peal of giggles. I didn’t know my mother thought she needed to change her accent until that moment. I don’t know that I was even aware she had an accent until I was around that age. To me, my mother’s accent was just my mother’s voice.  My family moved to New York City from Buenos Aires on the winter solstice of 1975. It was one of the two coldest winters of the century; my father and mother were 26 and 25. I was 16 months old and my twin brothers just 4 months.  I imagine my parents shivering in their light wool coats and thin leather gloves meant for a mild Argentininean winter as we were …

Make America Great Again: The Canadian Edition

When I was a kid, coming to “the States,” as we called it, was the shit. I mean, you guys had everything. I had never seen that many types of breakfast cereal in my short, Canadian life. The soda aisle alone blew my 9-year-old mind… PURPLE SODA? America the beautiful, indeed.  But other than those occasional Sunday family drives to Plattsburgh, New York—and the obligatory trip to Disney World, when I was 4—my primary exposure to the U.S. as I was growing up was via TV and the news. American presidents are so present and powerful when you live just next door. You almost feel as if they are your president, too. But mostly, the States was just fine—like an annoying older brother, always around, obligated to protect you, much stronger than you, and a little less refined. I certainly had no grand plans to live there.  But, life intervenes: 25-year-old girl meets boy, decides to find a job in a different country, and moves there to see if it will all work out. In …

Maid in the U.S.A.: The Invisible Helpers

My mother was raised in a wealthy household in Guyana. Somewhere in my files, there is a clipping from the Guyana Chronicle, a photo of a pretty girl in a hoop skirt, performing on the piano for Princess Margaret. Her father, Mayor of Georgetown, watches proudly. That girl is my mother. She went on to earn her degrees in music performance at a London conservatory, where she met a handsome British army officer from Barbados. My parents moved around Europe and then to a newly independent Barbados where the marriage swiftly disintegrated. One day she snatched up her children and brought them to Boston, forbidding us any contact with our dear father. In Boston, my mother, who performed on television in Barbados, disappeared into the crowd of invisible Black immigrants. When she met a Jamaican lady who cleaned houses for rich people, she became part of an underground network, scrubbing floors and doing laundry for a pittance.  One Saturday, I accompanied her when she worked in a large house on a leafy street in Brookline. …

Why the United States Remains a Beacon of Hope

I have been working really hard the last couple of months. I’m an attorney in New York City and one case has really consumed me. It is a pro bono asylum case, my first. The trial was today. Let me tell you about it. My client is a gay man from Uganda, a country that criminalizes homosexuality and makes consensual same-sex sex illegal. Violence and discrimination are routinely perpetrated by both state and non-state actors against the LGBTQIA population. The political and religious leaders actively stoke homophobia and violence, and are aided in this process by a vicious tabloid press that solicits tips to out people—those outed are often arrested and imprisoned, and/or attacked and shunned by their communities.  The general belief in Uganda is that homosexuality is like a disease, but also the product of poor parenting, and is contagious and often transmitted by people setting out to induce others, especially kids, into homosexuality. It is a huge taboo.  Mob justice is a form of extrajudicial killing prevalent in Uganda—mobs will form almost spontaneously …

TueNight 10: Sloane Davidson

Age: 39 (Almost in our demo!) Quick Bio: Sloane is the Founder and CEO of Hello Neighbor, a nonprofit that supports refugees and immigrants through mentorship. Next Tuesday, September 17th, 2019 she is co-hosting a TueNight Live #DayofAction and will be curating our new issue next week, “Welcome.” Beyond the bio: “I’m less than a month away from 40. Where did this decade go? As I near my birthday I keep thinking about the road I took to get here. The people that influenced me. How content I am now and how I never ever thought I would get here. There is a stillness to me, mixed in with my drive, because I finally feel like I’m doing something I was meant to do and everything led up to this moment. It’s dramatic but that’s where I am and I’m trying to sit in it and appreciate that because it was hard AF to get here and I don’t want to rush into looking ahead without appreciating the journey.” 1. On the nightstand: Fight Like A Mother by Shannon Watts, Memoirs of a Born …

TueNight 10: Taiia Smart Young

Age: 46 Basic bio: Taiia (Tee-eye-yah) is an award-winning author, content creator, writing coach and speaker. She loves connecting with teens about life, love and the pursuit of happiness. Her book, Famous! How to Be the Star of Your Show: A Teen Girl’s Guide to Embracing Her Fabulous Self, reminds young women “to believe in their flyness.” Her favorite T-shirt says: “The dopest writers are from Brooklyn.” Beyond the Bio: “I finally feel super comfortable in my skin. I know who I am, and I’m not ashamed that I love me something fierce.” 1. On the nightstand: Prayers for Difficult Times, essential oils and a talisman my grandmother gave me. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Wearing red lipstick, inserting classic movie lines into daily conversation, going to therapy, laughing at myself and talking about the importance of HBCUs 3. Jam of the minute: “Talk” by Khalid. 4. Thing I miss: The Golden Age of hip-hop, lyricists and brilliant flows. 5. 80s crush: Ralph Tresvant from New Edition. 6. Current crush: Lena Waithe, Ava DuVernay and Robin Thede. 7. Will whine about: Long lines. I will leave …

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While Writing a Book About Self Worth, I Had to Learn How to Practice It

Earlier this summer, after learning a writing teacher I wanted to study with in Cape Cod wasn’t available, I asked my literary coach and yoga instructor, Lisa Weinert, to help me put together a personalized writing retreat that I could enjoy at home in New York City. Instead of escaping to spend time writing in some remote bucolic place, I’d find peace in the chaos of Manhattan. I spend a lot of time focusing on fleeing where I live in order to get in touch with — or to reclaim — another part of myself. And although I love a good island or mountain vacation, all too many times I’ve come home and the sense of peace I enjoyed evaporates as I try to shove my suitcases onto the closing doors of the subway after a long flight home.  It was ironic. I spent so much time dreaming about visiting other places, but here I was, planning more time in the thick August heat of New York City while everyone else was dreaming of the …

TueNight 10: Tonya Jenerette

Age: 52 Quick bio: Tonya is the Deputy Chief for Strategic Advocacy and Litigation for the New York City Law Department. She spends her days advocating for the city and filing lawsuits to protect its most vulnerable residents. Beyond the Bio: “Up until age 45 I loved boasting that I make no concessions to age. Turning 50 changed all that. My body demanded compromises, like trading kickboxing for yoga and bootcamp classes for the gentler joys of African dance, power walking and Pilates. But the best part of turning 50 is no longer giving a damn about what my life is supposed to look like. I’ve always aspired to the single girl lives of Mary Tyler Moore, Rhoda Morgenstern and Wilona Woods, sprinkled with the fierceness of Pam Grier and Tamara Dobson, and that’s the life I’ve created. I have been alternately kissed and burned by the sun and I wake up every day happy to be here.” 1. On the nightstand: Song In A Weary Throat by Pauli Murray, The Source of Self-Regard by Toni Morrison and Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori …

TueNight 10: Caissie St. Onge

Age: 47 Quick bio: Caissie is an Emmy award nominated comedy writer, television producer (most recently for the sorely missed TueNighter fave, Busy Tonight, and before that Watch What Happens Live, The Rosie O’Donnell Show, and The Late Show with David Letterman) and author of the YA novel, Jane Jones: Worst. Vampire. Ever. Beyond the bio: “I know people worry a lot about how they look as they age and this might sound like bragging, but for whatever reason, whether it’s my voice or the way I dress or that I have a baby face, people always think that I’m a good deal younger than I am. Which can be okay. But a lot of times it’s annoying, too! I’ve been doing what I do for 26 years now, I have a ton of experience and I hate having to explain that.” 1. On the nightstand: Seltzer, allergy medicine, a scented candle. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Trying to create content that features and centers and speaks to women. 3. Jam of the minute: Anything by Lizzo. 4. Thing I miss: My son. He’s in …

One Cookie at a Time: Carrying the Weight of My Anxiety

I’ve been anxious for most of my life. I can trace my anxiety back to age six, the year my parents officially separated. Back then, we called my dad an alcoholic. Now, we’d call him what he really was: bipolar, self-medicating with alcohol. I remember sitting on a blue velvet couch in our living room, as a police officer, a friend’s father , came to haul my dad away. Our dog insisted on getting into the squad car with him, so the officer took her too. Just moments before, dad had arrived at our house to find himself locked out due to his volatile behavior. Enraged, he smashed a window trying to get in and cut the phone line ensuring we couldn’t call for help. A retired cop himself, he knew all the tricks. Thanks to our neighbor whose phone line was not cut, that’s as far as he got before the cops arrived.  My father’s violent and erratic behavior continued, several days later, when he arrived at my elementary school, trying to convince my …

TueNight 10: Lynn Hepburn

Age: 46 Quick bio: Lynn is a Brooklyn-based, non-profit fundraising executive. She’s on the hunt for her next challenge after 13 years in the same role. Currently soliciting ideason what to be when she grows up. Beyond the Bio: “Laid off for the first time in my life this year, I’m both excited and terrified by the opportunities ahead. I’m glad it happened now when I have more confidence and at the stage in life when I see it as a pivot to something better and different. More chin hairs, fewer concerns about what others think. Circle of life…” 1. On the nightstand: Half a dozen or so lotions and creams that will never go on my body because I hate lotions and creams but know I should use them so I keep buying them. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Watching MSNBC. I have been glued to the tv since before the 2016 election. While others have been gushing about Game of Thrones, I’ve been nursing my crush on Rachel Maddow. I feel like something bad will happen if I look away but …

TueNight 10: Daphne Youree

Age: 50, turning 51 August 23rd Quick Bio: Daphne Youree is a Brooklyn photographer and former apprentice to Arthur Elgort. She is currently working on her photo project Fem_Forward, focused on women’s fitness and empowerment, born out of political frustration. She is also thinking about starting a podcast focusing on women and their daily hero moments.You may have heard of Daphne’s recent #shero moment, literally bailing out commuters on the LIE! Beyond the bio: “Fitness and health are a huge part of my life now and help keep me feeling strong and vibrant. Every year older feels more empowered and confident. Having toddlers in my 40s helped me make sure I took care of myself so I could keep up with them. I finally realized in my older age that I should always dress nicely since it could be a viral video day!” 1. On the nightstand: My glasses, iPhone, hair band and dental floss 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Netflix binge watching 3. Jam of the minute: Lizzo – anything by her 4. Thing I miss:  Rapping in my Czech band, Prague 1990 5. 80s crush: Andrew McCarthy …

Following the Black Line: How I Found Peace in the Pool

I was a competitive swimmer in my early teens. My coach, Paul, always had me swim backstroke even though I wanted to swim breaststroke. I was faster in breaststroke. It didn’t make the water slosh over my face, gagging me, and causing me to vomit after every race. But, I raced backstroke in every meet because coach asked me. Regardless, I was a swimmer and I loved the water. I didn’t love throwing up at swim practice or after a meet, but I did love how I felt underwater.  The water was fresh and cool and so crisp and clear. I was strong in the water, in control. At the same time, I was nearly invisible with a cap and goggles, nearly unrecognizable as I swam under the radar. Stealthy. In charge of me. It was when I felt the most confident, the most myself. I don’t remember exactly why I stopped. But I stopped when I was 15 years old. Athlete or not, I probably succumbed to adolescent worries of body image and getting …

TueNight 10: Amy Hundley

Age: 46 Quick Bio: Amy is an editor and rights director at Grove Atlantic, which is to say she buys and sells books. She’s extremely proud to have edited The Yellow House by Sarah M. Broom, out in August. She lives in Brooklyn with her partner, their ornery cat, and the most adorable one-year-old to ever exist. Beyond the bio: “The biggest change in my life lately is becoming a parent, and I don’t know how you all did it except maybe it was easier at a younger age? Seriously, I have a bad hip all of a sudden. Before I became a mom, I felt like my 40s were all about knowing who I was and who I wasn’t and wouldn’t ever be, being strategic, and making what was important to me come closer to true. Now? It’s all about letting things go and enjoying the moment, seeing life through the eyes of someone who is so present and joyful and trying to learn from that (hopefully without letting too much of my job stuff slip through …

TueNight 10: Shannon Watts

Age: 48 Quick bio: Shannon Watts is the founder of Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America and the author of Fight Like A Mother: How A Grassroots Movement Took On The Gun Lobby And Why Women Will Change The World (HarperOne). Beyond the Bio: “I get asked all the time if I do my own social media — yes, that’s all me. I love to scan Twitter in waiting rooms, in grocery lines and while waiting on runways. Some people play Candy Crush, I tweet. My travel schedule this summer will be insane…I have a repetitive injury in my shoulder from lifting my suitcase into the plane overhead, but I would rather have a rhino gnaw off my toenails than have to check my luggage through baggage claim.” 1. On the nightstand: A huge stack of magazines I haven’t been able to read because I’ve been on the road. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Eating pistachios in the shell. I have callouses.  3. Jam of the minute: New album Assume Form by James Blake. 4. Thing I miss: My Blackberry. That red flashing light is addictive. …