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Nina Lorez Collins with her dog

TueNight 10: Nina Lorez Collins

Nina is the founder of a social platform and website for women over 40 called the Woolfer, as well as the co-host of a podcast, Raging Gracefully, author of a funny book on aging called What Would Virginia Woolf Do And Other Questions I Ask Myself As I Attempt To Age Without Apology, and the manager of the literary estate of her late mother, the filmmaker & writer Kathleen Collins…
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Elana Frankel

TueNight 10: Elana Frankel

Elana is a founder (indigonandhaze.com); author and writer (Women and Weed, the book); Editor in Chief (Women and Weed, the magazine). She’s worked for One Kings Lane (creative director), Architectural Digest, Martha Stewart Living, The New York Times, WSJ/Off Duty, New York Magazine and Oprah (to name a few). She also teaches yoga and meditation.
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TueNight 10: Sulyn Silber

Age: 52 Quick bio: Sulyn has been a personal trainer for 20 years and a massage therapist for 14. She has recently moved from NYC to Denver to spend more time in nature, and more specifically, in the mountains. During the Covid-19 pandemic, as a professional who relies on in-person workouts, she switched up her business to offer customized virtual personal training sessions. She mixes her simple DIY workouts with a badass personalized playlist from her days as a DJ.  Beyond the Bio:  “Turning 50 was huge. I found more confidence in my daily life and I wasn’t afraid to ruffle feathers, but I also realized that I had the power to defuse situations. Part of this comes from my daily meditation practice, which started in 2014, and from endless hours of talk therapy. Being in my 5th decade on this planet, I live life as fully as I can, each and every day. And I try to find kindness in moments that may have eluded me in my younger days.” What makes you a grown-ass lady?  “Being …

TueNight 10: Katie Rosman

Age: 48 Quick bio: Katie is a reporter for the New York Times. As she puts it, she’s “in the business of knowing other people’s business.”  Like many reporters, Katie’s usual features beat has shifted to covering COVID-19 — she wrote about the outbreak in Seattle and shared tips for staying sane through the crisis. Katie is also the author of the memoir, If You Knew Suzy. And she’s started making these wonderful, hand-stitched dinner napkins.  Beyond the Bio: “I’m worried. I’m bored. I’m wearing sweatpants for the 23rd consecutive day. But I’m also very grateful because I’m healthy, I’m employed and I’m privileged beyond description. My goal each day is to stay connected to the gratitude. But it takes work because, basically, my anxiety’s got anxiety.” What makes you a grown-ass lady? “Not apologizing for what I shouldn’t be sorry for, and being the first to say sorry when I fuck up.” 1. On the nightstand: Separation Anxiety by Laura Zigman. Hand sanitizer.  2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Diet Coke 3. Jam of the minute: “Ain’t No Man” by Angaleena Presley 4. Thing I miss: Walking out the front door. …

TueNight 10: Tara Shaver

Tara hikes a glacier in South Iceland in winter — 3 years after an unexpected total hip replacement (Photo provided by Tara) Age: 41 Quick bio: Tara is a volunteer engagement advisor with AARP by day and moonlights as a video storyteller. She is currently promoting her COVID-19 Chronicles, which documented her household’s journey with this coronavirus, including a crowd-sourced Q&A. “My boyfriend and I were two of the first people in Tennessee to be diagnosed with COVID-19. We had symptoms of the virus for 12-14 days and have been released from observation by public health since March 21. Since we have fully recovered, we are now participating in a COVID-19 vaccine study conducted by Vanderbilt University, and taking steps to donate plasma specifically for COVID-19 therapies.” Beyond the Bio:  “I’m a self-proclaimed city bumpkin. Born and raised in a small community outside of a small town in rural north Alabama, I love the conveniences and variety of city life, while embracing the best parts of ‘my raising.’ World traveler. Shoe junkie. List maker. Life changer. Curly Girl.” What …

TueNight 10: Tyrese Coleman

Age: 40 years old today! (April 1) Quick bio: Tyrese L. Coleman is the author of the collection, How to Sit, a 2019 Pen Open Book Award finalist published with Mason Jar Press in 2018. Writer, wife, mother, attorney, and writing instructor, she is a contributing editor at Split Lip Magazine and her essays and stories have appeared in several publications, including Black Warrior Review, Literary Hub, The Rumpus, and the Kenyon Review.  Beyond the Bio: “Life right now is all about ‘sheltering in place’ because of the COVID-19 pandemic. This means that I am cooped up in the house with my family and socializing via video chat. However, I have discovered some positives. One is that I have money since I am not out spending it. And another is that I have started jogging, something that I never thought I would be into. I always thought that the idea of ‘going for a run to clear my mind’ was something people just said, but it is actually true.” What makes you a grown-ass lady? …

TueNight 10: Barbara Rushkoff

Age: ‘Old,’ as my kid says. Actual: 58. Feels like: 12 on a good day. Basic Bio:  Barbara Rushkoff is a former ’zine editor (Plotz), fact-checker (People) and music writer. Her latest project is under the guise of yr_resting_stitchface on Instagram where she makes embroidery stitch art of people who have made a creative impact on her life. Beyond the Bio:  “I’m a perpetual late bloomer, so having a kid in my early 40s made a lot of sense. I live in a small town just outside of NYC, where I am pretty sure no one cleans to post-punk music or remembers most of the people I’m embroidering. I recall that time in my life when music was so interesting and new and people connected with each other through live shows, record stores and making mixed tapes for each other. I miss that. Mid-life crisis through music and memory? Maybe. But I’m enjoying the people I’m connecting with on this new level.”  What Makes You a Grown Ass Lady: “Acceptance. Just accepting where I am right now, and …

TueNight 10: Babita Patel

Age: 40 Quick Bio: Babita jets around the world as a humanitarian photographer and Executive Director of KIOO Project, a nonprofit that changes gender dynamics by teaching photography to girls who then teach boys. Her upcoming book, Breaking Out in Prison, introduces you to 15 men who were locked out of society long before they were locked up. Beyond the Bio: “My life at 40 looks nothing like I thought it would when I was 22. Starting a nonprofit, writing a book, my travel adventures have all landed in my lap while I was making myself crazy over ridiculous goals that were a waste of my time and energy. I finally decided to let the universe have its way while I stepped out of its way.” What makes you a grown-ass lady? “I don’t say ‘Yes’ when I really mean ‘No.‘ “ 1. On the nightstand: Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Dancing around my apartment like no one is watching 3. Jam of the minute: “Songs to Sing in the Shower” playlist 4. Thing I miss: My bed the second I …

TueNight 10: Vanessa DeLuca

Vanessa with Angela Bassett at an Essence Black Women in Hollywood event Age: 55 Basic bio: Vanessa is the Editor in Chief of ZORA magazine, a Medium publication by, for and about women of color. Last month they released the ZORA Canon, a curated compilation of 100 must-read books written by African-American women over the last 160 years. Beyond the Bio: “I have one kid who’s a sophomore in college, and one who’s a junior in high school, so I don’t feel that tug and pull of guilt about being a working mom the way I used to. It’s still hard to accept that my children are this old, and that I am this old, but I’m powering through it.” What makes you a grown-ass lady? “I spend little time apologizing for dipping out on invitations to events that I really don’t want to attend anyway. I let my intuition/gut be my guide about what’s worth the time and what isn’t.” 1. On the nightstand: My cholesterol and high blood pressure medications; with my family’s medical history, I …

TueNight 10: Roberta Lombardi

Age: 53 Quick Bio: Roberta is a three-year breast cancer survivor and founder and president of Infinite Strength, a nonprofit that provides financial assistance to underserved/underinsured women diagnosed with breast cancer. Many of the women helped by her organization are single mothers who are financially disadvantaged and/or below the poverty level. Beyond the bio: “I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 49 after I discovered a lump during a self-exam. I feel like I was just learning to embrace myself at that time: not concerned as much with what other people thought of me, and just enjoying life and my family. I loved my 40s! And then came the diagnosis. I lost my breasts, hair, self-esteem and dignity. When I was through with treatment I had to figure out who I was because I did not recognize myself, and it was a tough road.” What makes you a grown-ass lady?: “Having breast cancer pretty much stripped me down to the bone emotionally. But in a lot of ways that was a good thing as I began …

TueNight 10: Jennifer Owens

Age: 52 Quick bio: Jennifer is an editor, writer and speaker who tells stories to and about women, with a focus on career, family and health. She works with clients through Jennwork, her two-year-old content agency, and her newest project, The Breadwinners podcast, just launched on Messy.fm. Jennifer serves on the board of ProCon.org. Her punk band Two Minute Thrills plays in dive bars (where else?) around NYC. Beyond the bio: “I feel like I’m in the perfect moment right now. My kids are older and (literally) need less hand-holding, my spouse still makes me laugh, Pilates has me standing straighter than ever and I get invited to shout obscenities on various stages. Then there’s my work, which is all about speaking authentically to women. I love it — and love the people I get to work with.” What makes you a grown-ass lady? “That I’m still supporting my family despite the crumbling nature of media. I started out as a newspaper reporter, pivoted to magazines, moved to digital and now audio. I just keep hustling.” 1. On the nightstand: There are sooooo …

TueNight 10: Karen Dukess

Age: 57 Bio: Karen is the author of the novel The Last Book Party, which was published in July by Henry Holt. She has been a tour guide in the former Soviet Union, a newspaper reporter in Florida, a magazine publisher in Russia and a speechwriter on gender equality for the United Nations Development Programme. She lives with her family near New York City and spends as much time as possible in Truro on Cape Cod. Beyond the Bio: “I’m the quintessential late bloomer, writing my first novel in my 50s. Our culture celebrates young success, but I’ve learned from experience that late-in-life achievements are all the sweeter. And publishing your first novel just as your youngest child goes to college is a great antidote to empty nest syndrome.” What makes you a grown-ass lady? “I’m much more likely to try new things and not worry about how well I do them or how foolish I might look. Only well after age 40 did I have the guts to learn to downhill ski, scuba dive, and …

TueNight 10: Kera Bolonik

Kera with David Lee Roth when he stopped by the offices of DAME. Age: 49 Quick bio: Kera is a writer and the editor-in-chief of DAME Magazine. She is at work on a book entitled GULLIBLE, which will be out from HarperCollins/Dey Street Books sometime in 2021. Beyond the Bio:  “They say that as you grow older you care less about what people think, and it’s really true. I was so self-conscious and anxious, literally lost sleep scrutinizing conversations I’d had at work or parties, worrying I’d offended someone or sounded stupid. Now, I can barely remember conversations I had five minutes earlier; unless someone says something deliberately egregious, I usually let it pass. If we have to live amid such dark times, I feel better equipped to handle it now more than at any other point in my life. I’m finally at a point where I like where I’m at. But it feels fleeting, too, because my greatest anxieties now have everything to do with my parents’ aging and my son learning how to navigate …

TueNight 10: Carmen Rita Wong

Age: 48 Quick bio: Carmen is a writer, speaker, and an investor and advisor to women-owned businesses. A former national television host, magazine advice columnist, and faculty professor at NYU, Carmen serves on the board of the Planned Parenthood Federation of America and The Moth. She also hosts a podcast, has published two novels, and is currently working on her fifth book, a memoir.  Beyond the Bio: Damn, you get wise in your 40s. And, tired. But it’s the wise and curious parts that keep me going. Self-acceptance, too. There is a level of DGAF that is hard-won and you’d better believe I enjoy the hell out of that. What makes you a grown-ass lady? Grown-ass is a scale. I was a grown-ass lady at 12 years old, helping care for four younger siblings, working, and excelling at school. But now, as a single parent with aging parents and a brother now living with advanced cancer, being grown-ass feels like a given. But what I will never forget is that being grown-ass doesn’t mean being old-ass. Keep playing. …

TueNight 10: Julia Munemo

Age: 45 Quick bio: Julia is a writer currently living in western Massachusetts. Fifteen years ago, a stack of pulp fiction written by her long-dead father landed on her kitchen table — most of the novels were interracial porn. Julia, a white woman, had been married to a black man for six years by then, and their first son was a toddler. Her memoir, The Book Keeper: a Memoir of Race, Love, and Legacy, tells the story of what happened when she finally faced her shame about her father’s secret career and cracked open those books. Beyond the Bio: “I couldn’t have faced my dad’s books before I was 40. People talk about feeling more confident and questioning themselves less at this age; me, I still question myself all the time and confidence has never come easily. But something did shift after 40 that allowed me to face my legacy. I think it’s about the ability to feel vulnerable. I felt invincible in my 20s and a good chunk of my 30s. Now I know I’m …

TueNight 10: Addie Tsai

Addie celebrating her recent book publicationAge: 40 Quick bio: Addie is a queer, nonbinary artist and writer who teaches creative writing, English, humanities, and dance, at Houston Community College. Her debut, queer Asian Young Adult novel Dear Twin, was published by Metonymy Press in November 2019.  Beyond the Bio: “Two weeks before I turned 40, and three months before embarking on promoting my first book, my marriage of four-plus years (seven altogether) fell disastrously apart. Forty is coming with lots of changes, both good and bad, exciting and paradigm-shifting. But I’m also excited about what the new decade might bring, too.” 1. On the nightstand: The Map of Salt and Stars, by Zeyn Joukhadar 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Roller-skating 3. Jam of the minute: “Washing Machine Heart,” Mitski 4. Thing I miss: My ex 5. 80s crush: Janet Jackson 6. Current crush: The DJ who played for Lizzo when she opened for HAIM, before anyone knew who she was 7. Will whine about: Traffic 8. Will wine about: Dating sagas 9. Best thing that happened recently: I made Autostraddle’s list of 55 of the best queer books …

TueNight 10: Mimi Hui

Age: 46! Quick bio: Mimi is a Senior Director of Technical Products at WeWork San Francisco. She’s an avid (but extremely slow) watercolorist and is working on a selection for a future show. Beyond the Bio:  “I became pregnant somewhat unexpectedly at 45, and then lost my baby. This triggered a series of health issues, including a dormant chronic illness which may not have a cure. It’s taught me to enjoy what’s in front of me, be very focused, and to be financially prudent in the event that I won’t be able to work and have skyrocketing health costs. I need to be sure that I can care for myself as much as possible. It’s also considerably amped up my snarky-ness.” 1. On the nightstand: My puppy’s collar — we have a silly ritual where I take off his collar before we settle in to bed and then I exclaim, “Look! You’re nekkid and ready for bed!” 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Being a New Yorker/wondering how to get more sleep 3. Jam of the minute: Silence — it’s really relaxing 4. Thing I miss: My …

TueNight 10: Kenrya Rankin

Age: 38  Quick Bio: Kenrya Rankin is an award-winning writer and editorial consultant. She hosts the literary erotica podcast “The Turn On,” and her latest project, How We Fight White Supremacy: A Field Guide to Black Resistance, is now available as an audiobook. Beyond the Bio: “After many years spent splitting myself into easily digestible parts — this is the writer part, this is the activist part, this is the part who doesn’t bite her tongue — I’m now clear that I’m my best when I bring my entire self to every situation. Gone are the exhausting days of deciding who to be each moment, of worrying how I’ll be received, of worrying that I won’t be enough — and it feels amazing.” 1. On the nightstand: I’m in the middle of scouting literary erotica written by Black women for season two of my podcast; there are sooooo many books in my phone waiting for me to finish them. 2. Can’t stop/won’t stop: Not sleeping? Seriously, I don’t sleep enough. 3. Jam of the minute: “Up Late,” by Ari …